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My Story Thread 37 - Blended, not stirred
#120: June 26, 2024, 01:50:07 PM
Beautifully said ready, as always you are full of wisdom. Im glad that you guys are still here helping those who were just bulldozed by their spouses. It’s really a big relief for me when i was new here to know that I am not crazy. Thank you!
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Thread 37 - Blended, not stirred
#121: July 31, 2024, 04:06:02 PM
UM - always good to have an update from you!   I'm not here much but when I check in from time to time I always look up the folks that were going through the muck and mire back in 2016. 

Your son really seems to have turned things around regarding his education.  It's nice to read that.  I hope that things will improve with your daughter. 

You didn't mention the motorcycle so of course I want to know if you still have it!  I've been rolling the miles on the Harley, as well as lots of pedal bike riding too.  School will be starting soon here so I have to get all the miles in while I can. 

It's certainly good to read that once again, at work, you are the OM!!

Best wishes.   
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Thread 37 - Blended, not stirred
#122: July 31, 2024, 04:19:48 PM
I must have missed this update UM. I'm also glad that you are still around cheering us all along. It's the best thing about this place.
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OW - he (supposedly) met her in the pub a week before BD, told me about her a week after BD. Thinks 'their planets have collided' because 'their eyes met across the room' and they had an 'instant connection'. Lives with her. Is building a life with her.
Jun 20: H plans to buy a block of land and build a house with her (never happens).
May 22: Movement... (likely T&G? Time will tell I guess)
May 23: Yep, definitely a T&G last year. Still have contact but very minimal. He is a long way away from me these days. He doesn't seem particularly happy in his new life... but he's still there soooo....
Jun 23: I meet a lovely new man (M).
Jun 24: xH and OW finally buy a block of land
Jul 24: xH proposes to OW... in front of the whole family, just wow...
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Thread 37 - Blended, not stirred
#123: August 02, 2024, 07:54:59 AM
Hi SB, Hi Ever,

Re: the motorcycle, my R1150 bit the big one (ABS went out, back disk needed to be replaced, a leak in the back axle and the steering head was worn out - all total about €4000 in repairs for a bike worth about €2500 so I took the trade-in offer of 500€, put some of my savings ngs in, financed a bit for 2 years and bought another BMW - an  R1200 GS - TOTALLY different feeling  and, in my view, much nicer. More upright, the steering is better, and the engine is a lot smoother despite being a boxer motor.. The shop said it appears that my old one had been in an accident at some point (before me) so I'm not too unhappy about it but I am poorer.

My daughter is doing MUCH better, was released from the day clinic and even managed to get back into school at the last part of the year.. She will repeat the year on free will so it doesn't count against her but she's doing much better.

The launch is coming faster than I'd like and I'm hoping the network is ready. We had license issues with the US up to the last minute but they got resolved....

Other than that, typical post-MLC trigger stuff in life... It takes a long time to get over them, if we ever do....
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Thread 37 - Blended, not stirred
#124: August 03, 2024, 04:53:44 PM
Hello,

Great news!

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Other than that, typical post-MLC trigger stuff in life... It takes a long time to get over them, if we ever do....

I don't think you ever can get over anything. A broken bone may heal stronger, but it is still different. You are also still connected with the MLCer while I am a thousand miles from mine with no interactions at all. However I still have those moments after all we were together for 18 years and that brings a lot of memories and moments together.

So have your moments and know that you will have positive ones as well.

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My daughter is doing MUCH better, was released from the day clinic and even managed to get back into school at the last part of the year.. She will repeat the year on free will so it doesn't count against her but she's doing much better.

Super good news and I am happy to hear she is back in school. There is a book out called the "The Anxious Generation" and I want to download it. I hope she continues to improve and know that she and you are in my prayers.

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so I took the trade-in offer of 500€, put some of my savings ngs in, financed a bit for 2 years and bought another BMW - an  R1200 GS - TOTALLY different feeling  and, in my view, much nicer. More upright, the steering is better, and the engine is a lot smoother despite being a boxer motor..

Glad you are enjoying your bike. We all need to follow our passions and live our lives.

Enjoy your weekend,

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Thread 37 - Blended, not stirred
#125: August 08, 2024, 05:04:39 AM
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Other than that, typical post-MLC trigger stuff in life... It takes a long time to get over them, if we ever do
This quote resonates with me so much! Your updates always give a very realistic image of what it’s like to co-parent with an MLC’er even so many years down the line. It gets easier over time but the drama that comes with it I don’t think I’ll get ever used to it.

You’re doing good Ursa! And good to hear your daugther is doing better!

Enjoy the bike  ;D
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Thread 37 - Blended, not stirred
#126: August 10, 2024, 04:50:10 PM
Catching up UM.  But I don't think it's been almost 10 years since BD, that would be next year.  Wasn't your BD just around the same time as mine in 2015?  Or did you have one prior to the one in 2015?  Regardless, it's been a heck of a long time for sure.  Can't believe that 2025 will be 10 years since my H disappeared into the void and Edgar appeared from the wreckage.  I've got us pegged at 8 years 8 months and December would be 9 years.  Or is my math not mathing?
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#127: August 10, 2024, 10:42:57 PM
Yes FW, the big one was in Dec 2015 so coming up on 9. In fact, BD1 was at the end ofAugust 2015 so I guess there is an anniversary coming  ::)
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