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#10: January 21, 2012, 09:01:21 PM
  Friends with my mlcer? I think a lot of words have lost there meaning during this crisis. Since H is incapable of having an R with anyone even himself, being my friend is absurd. To keep him in the "loop" I act like he's a friend. He probably thinks I am in denial(and happy I am) that I treat him like he's still my H (he is) and I am giving him space.
  He now says "I'd take a bullet for you. You're my best friend in the whole world" and "If your car broke down I'd come asap. If it snows more than a couple inches I'm coming over to shovel"  Hmmm?
  If I were to say "No No friendship" I feel I would drive him further into the self pity and self loathing party! Since he has exhibitted 'cheater's etiquette' by being really nice for the last 4 mos or so I'll just play along.    ???    Giving him some lee way...since he's mentally cracked for now. And I can handle it..No sense in denying him the ability to try and be my "friend" and giving up the ability to make OW even crazier and more unglued bc I am his 'best friend in the whole wide world'. Cah! ::) ::) ::) ::)
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Re: The Friendship Balance
#11: January 21, 2012, 09:06:22 PM
Quote from: Mamma Bear on January 21, 2012, 09:01:21 PM

  If I were to say "No No friendship" I feel I would drive him further into the self pity and self loathing party! Since he has exhibitted 'cheater's etiquette' by being really nice for the last 4 mos or so I'll just play along.    ???    Giving him some lee way...since he's mentally cracked for now. And I can handle it..No sense in denying him the ability to try and be my "friend" and giving up the ability to make OW even crazier and more unglued bc I am his 'best friend in the whole wide world'. Cah! ::) ::) ::) ::)

Exactly Mama - perfect paving and all that  :)  Who else would understand this stuff?  Exhibiting cheater's etiquette, so you'll give him some lee way since he's mentally cracked right now.  Was the reason that I could do my paving all of this time too - 'clearly mentally cracked!'  :P
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Re: The Friendship Balance
#12: January 21, 2012, 09:23:51 PM
  KiKi,  If we just 'listen' you can hear their lost-ness!  ::)
  I remember in the beginning right after BD saying "I was up all night puking. I was thinking of you having sex with a convenience store clerk"
 He said "It happens"       :o :o :o :o :o :o :o :o  That was NOT the man I married. 
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Re: The Friendship Balance
#13: January 21, 2012, 09:37:51 PM
OMG Mama - I know that is far from funny - BUT I remember after BD saying 'why are you so obsessed with this plastic, trailer trash, vacuous woman?  I don't get it - how can you just walk out and abandon your kids.  We have no idea where you are living!' 
He said 'IT HAPPENS'  :o :o :o :o :o :o :o :o  That also was not the man that I married
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