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#30: April 04, 2012, 09:03:47 AM
Well, there are a lot of perspectives here.  For me, I was happy to change my name when I married H, and I have no intention of taking back my maiden name.  For one, my FOO is pretty messed up, and I'd rather not be identified with them....  I do use my maiden name as my middle name, and actually now regret that I don't have my "real" middle name instead....   now that's not a huge issue, but it's enough that I don't have any real desire to have that name back. 

Anyway, my married name is also my professional name, and the only surname by which I've ever been known in this country, so that is another reason.  And the children are the most important one -- like Cali, I never want to have an issue with that. 

Also, I plain old LIKE my married name.  So much has been taken away from me, I'm not losing that as well.    Like Cali, it's my identity as part of my family, and I am part of my family. 
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Re: Changing your name back?
#31: April 04, 2012, 09:29:29 AM
my married name is also my professional name, and the only surname by which I've ever been known. And the children are the most important one -- like Cali, I never want to have an issue with that.

Also, I plain old LIKE my married name.  So much has been taken away from me, I'm not losing that as well.    Like Cali, it's my identity as part of my family, and I am part of my family.
I feel the same as the above...........i also want to be selfish and if o/w and my h make it..........i want her to know no matter what she is second and always will be ...........so for spite i will keep my last name......some people may think im wrong but i married for life and that means when i changed my name that too was life xxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxx
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Re: Changing your name back?
#32: April 04, 2012, 09:58:13 AM
Well, the reason I won't change my name back if we divorce is simple.  In fact, it might be too simple and shallow.  The reason is simply because I NEVER liked my maiden name.  It was awful in my opinion so I do not wish to have it back.

I supposed if this divorce ever comes to fruition that I could change my mind but I don't think I will.  But, you are all right, this is an interesting topic.
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