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Discussion Quarterlife Crisis??
OP: November 19, 2012, 06:47:13 AM
http://www.huffingtonpost.com/christine-hassler/are-you-having-a-quarterl_b_326612.html

Okay, I'm curious to know:

Who's heard of this?

Who believes it's real?

Who had one of these?
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Re: Quarterlife Crisis??
#1: November 19, 2012, 12:53:20 PM
My H did.  that is why I questioned this MLC...  He was 29 and walked away, came back within 1 year.  At the age of 50ish first BD and wanting leave with couple more to follow.  I truly believe because of some childhood issues, he went through a quaterlife crisis and now a mid life because he never dealt with it during the first crisis. I had never heard of any of this until I found this site. 
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Re: Quarterlife Crisis??
#2: November 19, 2012, 01:36:27 PM
I’ve hear of it.

A friend of mine, that is a few years younge than me, said he had one at 27. But, for the most part, I don’t think it is much of an issue. From what my friend said he mainly questioned is direction in life. He was 27, single, doing is graduation. I think it is just a delayed form of adolescence. It seems to happen to people who have finished their education or are moving towards a higher education, a master degree or a PHD. To get there they had to study hard for years on end.

In fact, I think OW2 is having her adolescence phase since, in 2006, she finished her master’s, at the age of 29. Up until then she was buried in study.

Also, people are becoming mature later and later. So it makes some sense that we are seeing people in their mid 20’s having issues that belong to teenagers.

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Re: Quarterlife Crisis??
#3: November 19, 2012, 02:02:28 PM
I don't know if I'd consider it that, because I always had a lot of frustration between getting from where I was to where I wanted to be.  Even when I was a kid, I saw the "promised land" of my future, but had no idea how to reach it.  I came the closest at 25, but managed to entangle it with an EA, a lot of partying and reckless spending (SOUND FAMILIAR?!).  When the bottom fell out I didn't stop to deal with it, just ran home, begged Hoss's forgiveness and jumped right back into our R (actually got married within the following year).  It's the adage they profess around these parts about how if you don't deal with things, you revisit them in MLC.  Those things are definitely the doors that were opened, but MLC was way worse.  I'm grateful though to have a point of reference with the EA.  I don't consider myself better than Hoss, and I can empathize with how lost he is and how he things attaching himself to someone else's agenda will fix that.
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Re: Quarterlife Crisis??
#4: November 19, 2012, 05:51:44 PM
Well I answered yes to more than 12 questions.  Do I qualify? 

Seems to me everyone goes thru stuff but not like an mlc...I mean in your 20's?  I went thru the o my god I'm 25 & I'm getting old & most of my friends have graduated from university & I'm never...etc.  In your 20's you change your major, or run away to a new town or quit or start college.  Normal I would say.

I do remember when I was 26, thinking, what am I doing?  :-\  I brushed it off, said to myself, 'oh well you can always get a divorce'.  :o :o ::)
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Re: Quarterlife Crisis??
#5: November 19, 2012, 09:10:20 PM
I have heard of it.  I think my husband had one at around 26-27 and he had many of the same symptoms and behaviors he has now but much milder.  It only lasted about four months or so and then disappeared.  Until MLC hit.
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