[since_youve_been_gone]

Hi SD

Thanks once again for your reply.

The bit about switching off like a lightbulb.  It just feels like he's WIPED out our entire twenty three years!

Isn't it like being in a trial and the jury are all against you, or in a bad dream when you want to scream amd no sound comes out?

Sooooo unfair.

Hope you are well
 
Since x

[In this for ME]

The bit about switching off like a lightbulb.  It just feels like he's WIPED out our entire twenty three years!

It feels like this to us; but they have been working really hard to detach, rewrite history, convince themselves they are unloved and uncared for and blaming us for a very long time before BD.

Mine worked for 5 years and I never really knew it. 

[devoted]

It is true our MLCers spend a long long time convincing themselves of things that are just not true.

After BD I said to my H you don't just stop loving someone that you have loved for 23 years you can't just switch it off.H said it hasn't just happened I have been feeling like this for about 18 months,I have all these thoughts going round in my head that I can't make sense of,I just need some time away to sort myself out my head tells me one thing but my heart tells me something different.

H spent all that time convincing himself that I did not love him,appreciate him,was only in it for the money,I wouldn't even notice if he wasn't there,that the kids didn't care about him and that we would be absolutely fine without him.............sad thing is he couldn't be more wrong x

[Ready2Transform]

Devoted, if you haven't yet, check the thread about the difference between depression and MLC.  There are some great posts about Serotonin that would explain exactly what you just described (which is almost identical to what my H said to me at BD #1). 

[devoted]

Thanks Ready I will.......... I am grateful for anything I can read here that gives me a bit more understanding of this MLC madness even if it just helps a little x

[since_youve_been_gone]

Devoted

That's unbelievable - my husband took the exact words out of your husbands mouth!!!  The bit about in it for the money especially.

Do you think they were possibly separated at birth?  !!

Since x