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#70: September 20, 2012, 02:21:42 AM
Niek, don't know if it's low self esteem, suggests it a bit doesn't it. My H is with a girl 14 yrs younger and we looks and acts it. He seems to be head over heels in love with her. I think she's quite attractive but my friend said she just looks like a gawky teen! I don't get it in terms of her maturity, she must be so annoying, my friend who has met says she is and pretty immature. Feel like my H really needs to punish me for making him so unhappy. He sees me as his mother and he has suppressed rage at the way she abandoned him and the way she treated him. He's been and is in denial about that anger towards her but he is having hypnotherapy and it seems to be coming out. I told him I had always thought he had latent or misplaced anger at his mum and his step mum! When I started to live with him I asked him to help with housework and he would get so defensive and not lift a finger and then one day he said I made him feel like his step mother did when she wanted him to hel out. Is this my fault or his?
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#71: September 20, 2012, 03:37:44 AM
Yes, his fault of course. How could you know. Helping with the housework I think is quite normal, especially when both partners have a job. I guess he never talked to his (step)mother, he never told them what really bothered him so later in live he is projecting it all on to you. That seem to be the problem with all/most MLCers.
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Re: Husbands younger than wives
#72: September 20, 2012, 03:45:22 AM
Oh yes I think there's a whole lot of projection going on for these MLCers! My H had been doing it since I met him!
I need to remember whenever my H opens his mouth that he is probably projecting something! Talk about passive aggression, he epitomises it I think!
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Re: Husbands younger than wives
#73: September 20, 2012, 08:04:15 AM
Well, I'll add mine to the list.  I am 5 years older than my exH.  His first wife was also a couple of years older than him.  At first, I wasn't very comfortable with the difference in our age but he was so convincing that age didn't matter.  I have always been told I look years younger than I am.  Ha, ha.  Also, my exH's twin brother's wife is 10 years older..........and.........honestly.......she looks it! 
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Re: Husbands younger than wives
#74: October 18, 2012, 06:01:04 PM
I am 12 years older than H. OW is 7 years older. Never an issue for us. But maybe he has a mother fixation????
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