[Tsunami]

Yea, and look at us, we're the ones taking sedatives to make it through all this crazy crap they have brought into our lives.

[Anjae]

Yea, and look at us, we're the ones taking sedatives to make it through all this crazy crap they have brought into our lives.

So true.

Husband did not drink not has ever taken drugs. Now he drinks too much (sometimes to the point of not remembering what had happened), don't know about drugs. He become an workaholic and makes sure he does not have a single minute on his own. Think he is also on OW high.

[LettingGo]

Excessive drinking.... EXCESSIVE!!! Also, pot use... always offering me a valium for a headache and such.... claims "they're only 5 mg... no biggie!" a lot of TUMS in his suitcase...

We were talking the other day and I said "and you know how difficult it is to break an addiction..." referring to him leaving OW that night.... and he said "What addictions do you think I have? I mean, other than my alcohol addiction?" 

I suspect it was a slip of the tongue and he meant to say "What addictions do you think I have? I mean, other than alcohol..." as I used to tell him he was an alcoholic... again, pretty sure it was just a slip of the tongue... but MAYBE he has been thinking about how he IS an alcoholic....fingers crossed....

Drinks morning noon and night most of the time he's here.... but has some days where he almost SOBER, LOL!! Other days when there's been NO alcohol in the house, and he didn't smoke any pot... didn't seem to be on valium.... seemed FINE!! No DT's or anything...

He has told me when he was at OW's, he stayed "not sober" all of the time.... "just to stand being around her"  Geeze.... ever consider just coming home, dude?

[Stillpraying]

I knew my H smoked Marijuana in his 20's while married to his first wife but since BD I have found out that he also smoked it at 17 when introduced to it by his rich girlfriend from school.  he began hearing 'voices' and his parents wanted to get him into treatment but he wouldn't go.

He was drinking a lot before he left but i was joining him in that on the Friday nights.  he would fill my glass quite often without me realising and also finish the bottle before I finished a second glass.  Said I drove him to drink!

He is vocalising his money troubles but he is not spending it on furniture or a fancy place.  Rent is $140 a week and he hasn't bought any obvious expensive item.  His mum is concerned it's on drugs again but I don't know how to tell.  He sure is blowing a lot of cash though.  We end up with the same amount and I'm caring for 4 kids and can manage with the mortgage payment also.  Where oh where has it gone?  Up in smoke?

[Trustandlove]

H was drinking heavily before he left; I think he still was for the first year or two afterwards, although he claims not.

I don't think he ever did drugs, but he did tell me once that some colleagues thought he was doing so, because of his erratic behaviour.  That was at about the 2.5 year mark. 

He is a lot calmer now, although nowhere near through his tunnel. 

[Stillpraying]

I forgot to add that he was taking quite a lot of paracetamol.  Always seemed to have a headache.  I'd buy a box of 100 for the medicine cabinet and just keep one strip in my bag but when I finally took the last one, the other's were all gone?

I believe he is still drinking heavily with OW.  Credit card statements after he left showed a bit spent at the bottle shop and the kids have been with them when they were drinking red wine (2 bottles) in front of the kids.

[BonBon]

My H was a big drinker when we met...at night, out...not sitting around drinking but definitely a big partier.  Then no partying at all for about 15 years.  He started drinking again around BD, but this time at home, at night.  Not excessively by some standards but surely a change.  Then he started going out drinking afterwork and defintely drove drunk though he tried to hide the buzz he had. 

One day I found Extenz pills in his drawer.  That REALLY flipped me out. So I don't know if I would call that a drug per se but certainly something.  He stopped taking those (I think) when I told him if he wasn't having an affair, then why would he need those?

Then he got into all kinds of body building supplements.  Ones that could interact with his blood pressure issues.  Thank God those stopped.  At the time, he didn't care what harm they might cause as long as his muscles got big.  Again, not a drug in the sense of addiction but surely a dangerous substance.

Now, the drinking is very rare though I do see it on occassion.  However, he has started taking a prescription, non addictive anti depressant, prescribed by his doctor for sleep issues.  I forget the name..trazadone?  Something like that.  This is finally the drug that I am in favor of.  I am actually glad to have him on something that is not addictive, and is a low grade helper for his sleep and depression.