I think my H is Overt Perpetrator. He wants control of everything. I also wonder if being adopted as a baby has anything to do with it. I know he doesn't have close connections with his adoptive siblings and his are with his adoptive parents was almost nothing.
I'm somewhere in the victim mode. Really tough FOO issues for me.
Interesting, thanks.
"God takes us down paths we never want to travel and roads we never want to see, to get us to a place we never want to leave."