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Which type of brain do You have ?

Right brained
17 (68%)
Left brained
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#30: January 18, 2014, 03:48:07 AM
Guys, I don't want to spoil the party but in reality there is no such think like right brain or left brain dominant.

http://www.livescience.com/39373-left-brain-right-brain-myth.html

So we can do this tests and have fun but we cannot use it as science or to say that is makes the difference in being an MLCer or a LBS.

If there such thing as right brain or left brain dominant was most people would be right brain dominant. Most people tend to be more emotional than logic.

Anjae I am doing the introduction to Psychology course on Coursera and just learned that there is no distinction between left and right brained people. The article you posted says just what the lecturer on coursera said.

So we use both sides of the brain equally and maybe it is just a mix of personality/nature (but this would be biological wouldn't it so neurologically based?) and nurture as to whether we are more creative or analytical? What exactly is it that makes us more comfortable with creativity versus analysis?

My H is creative type but seems to have become business man which goes against his instincts as I knew him before MLC.
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Re: Right brained people and MLC ?
#31: January 18, 2014, 05:36:19 AM
In the dancer test, came out left-brained first and then right-brained. Didn't do the other test, but I absolutely know from work and difficulties communicating with extremely left-brained people sometimes, that I'm quite severely right-brained! 
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Re: Right brained people and MLC ?
#32: January 18, 2014, 09:32:20 PM
That's a very good question, TT...why did I hope, even before I did the test, that I would come out as right-brained and feel better when I did the test and had it confirmed? Similarly, when I did the  typology test, I felt comfortable coming out as an intuitive feeling type. It seems that I definitely value feeling over reason but I think I'm missing the point. As Anjae pointed out, there is no such thing as left/right brained, there are just different types of people, and if I understood correctly, instead of being complacently happy that I am one "type" of person, I should be working on developing my weaker side...reasoning and logic...in order to become a more complete person. Perhaps I should be working towards making the dancer go clockwise or anti-clockwise at will...just thinking aloud really. I've just come back from a long walk with the dog...how I love those times  :) :) :)
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Re: Right brained people and MLC ?
#33: January 21, 2014, 01:59:34 PM
Interesting tests and thoughts.  So it may be a sort of pseudo-science but for me, I think it holds true in many ways. 

As to me, the test says I am right brained.  I would say that is true now.  Following the crisis with Genius and during the recovery and growth time I craved art, music, plants, the symphony, yoga, museums, scented oils, natural remedies, spirituality, reading, painted my home with earth tones-mustard yellow, browns, greens.  Previously I was a numbers and logic person, played numbers games to unwind, took a calculus class for an elective in 9th grade. 

I think the stress and trauma of the crisis forced me to subconsciously want/need to further develop the right side of the brain somehow, to seek to surround myself with artistic beauty perhaps, to find peace while I retreated and adjusted to painful truths/reality. 

I would like to think I am now becoming a more complete person although the journey is far from over.  But I am enjoying it immensely!
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Re: Right brained people and MLC ?
#34: January 21, 2014, 04:31:48 PM
Quote from: lawprofessor link=topic=3666.msg287142#msg287142 date

I think the stress and trauma of the crisis forced me to subconsciously want/need to further develop the right side of the brain somehow, to seek to surround myself with artistic beauty perhaps, to find peace while I retreated and adjusted to painful

This is interesting; my H is now interested in art, never was before but now he is drawn to it. Early in his crisis he was interested in working with his hands; he took up woodworking but hasn't touched it in probably 6 months or so. Spent a bunch of money and doesn't even look at it now  ??? I have always wondered why art; he is always wanting to go museums. OW1 could draw and I have wondered if that is connected to his interest in art now.
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Re: Right brained people and MLC ?
#35: January 23, 2014, 01:16:41 PM
 Good Afternoon Searching4Answers!

If I may, I would like to take a stab at answering your question, why art.  Of course, it is only a guess as I am sorry to say I have not read your thread.  In my case, art is relaxing as well as stimulating.  It is peaceful, focusing my mind and senses as though I have tunnel vision.  I actually feel my mind tingle as I look at it.  The colors, shapes, sounds, and the beauty are absorbed.  And is this not what we hope for the MLCer?  That he be able to quiet his spinning mind and to think and feel again? To find peace and beauty?  To grow into a well rounded mature person?

As to the part about the OW:  I would guess that she is only tangentially related to his interest in art.  Perhaps one of the things that drew him to her was her artistic skills.  Perhaps it was her that introduced him to the museum and he had an experience as I described above there, creating peace in his zippy foggy mind.  Who knows?  Either way art is helping him.  It is my experience that a MLCer has few moments of mental stimulation and peace, few times when they can just enjoy the beauty of the world.  He is looking for peace and beauty as they all are I believe, it is just that he is sensibly finding it in a museum rather than in the lap of a stripper and her shiny costume or at the bottom of a bottle.  Not a bad habit to have acquired on his journey I would say!

My question for you to ponder if you like, is do you enjoy art, going to museums?  Perhaps you will think of taking a class in the field of art?  Drawing? Painting? Sculpture? Art History? Textiles?  I never thought I was into art previously until I tried.  And that is what this journey is all about, stepping out of our comfort zone, trying new things, expanding our horizons!  Finding peace and beauty in to world!
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