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Discussion Re: Anyone else survive an MLC of a parent?
#10: October 29, 2010, 07:37:46 AM
You know, I really didn't connect the dots that my dad was in MLC until I realized H was.  This current situation may have helped me past the final forgiveness that I needed to give to my dad.  After I got over the anger, I tried to understand what happened.  I did place some blame on my mom and a lot of blame on my dad.  Understanding MLC has made me realize that no one is really to blame, it was just an unfortunate and destructive mental state my dad went through.  My dad has been wonderful through this whole ordeal.  He has helped me understand some of what is going on in H's head.

Funny, my H having an affair was the LAST thing I would have ever thought he would do.  Maybe subconsciously, I fell in love with him because he was so different from my dad.  The only thing I can say they both have in common is a lack of confidence around women.  I used to think the flirty, gregarious guys were the ones most susceptible to an affair.  Now, I see that a man who is not flirty and does not think he is attractive can also be tempted.  All it takes is one person to get to him and stroke his ego...
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