[What contact type is your MLCer?]

What contact type is your MLCer?

Clinger/Boomerang

17 (42.5%)

Vanisher

14 (35%)

On and off

9 (22.5%)

Total Members Voted: 40

[hawk]

So ex moved out 6wks after bd because l work from home and needed the property space.
She seemed on her way day 1. She came to see me a wk later though worried about me. l was a mess.
But ever since , we see and talk a few times a wk , mostly d stuff and earlier financial messes .
Perhaps it's that she knows we'll talk and see each other every few days , she rarely contacts me except for d stuff or money stuff. That's been consistent right though. Once or twice we haven't text for a wk or two , didn't seem to bother ex.
There's also been many talks along the way to though , about us and a few all nighters via text , ex's feelings , one or two fights and about things that happened. Nothing on R , ever .
Ex has sometimes been extremely friendly , inviting , warm , caring, always very fair , d or money , sometimes touchy , but others back offish or even leaves or goes out when l get there or acts like she could not give a damn . It's often one or two goods and then a back off.

l don't think me going NC would make any dif to ex at all except maybe l'd get a text every wk or two to see how things are but that'd be it.
And it would damage what we have going with my d and the way we do things for d , so l've never done it longer than a wk or two. At those few times though to , l noticed straight away things getting weirder bewteen us and harder for everything d which l no way want so , l gently moved things back into our old system .

lf there weren't kids involved and l feel terrible even saying that but you how l mean it, l'd have completely left the area and started fresh somewhere else as soon as l felt there was no hope and to hell with ex.