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OffRoad, amazing news about your walk!! 💗 Additionally, thank you for sharing your “how about that” story. No matter how many threads I read, research I dive into, conversations I have with others-  this will never cease to amaze me. But I’m so glad there’s hope in time that someday one can just laugh it off and shake one’s head. It is what it is and we move forward.
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Thank you, MadLuv and Flummoxed. I don't write here much, but sometimes like to let people know that the single life isn't so bad. I suppose I might be able to find someone if I wanted, though it is tough when one isn't very mobile, I'm just not sure I want anyone. I'll just let my life continue to unfold.

I went to Yosemite in June. My friend had never been and that was supposed to be part of the October adventure that she had to cancel, so now that her life had evened out, I invited her along. Last time I went it was winter and incredible. 4 foot icicles hanging from overhangs, crystalline ice covering the ground where the snow had melted and reformed, ice covered streams. It was like being to an entirely different park in June. Once again, I was faced with ADA does not mean a disabled person can actually use anything, but I'm all about making do. Suggestion: Don't stay at Cedar Lodge, even if you aren't disabled. Stay at the south end if you don't stay in the park.

Nonetheless, the scenery was beautiful. There were still full waterfalls and wildlife galore. At one point I was getting ready to get the wheelchair out of the car and a couple of very nice young men gave us a hand. Warms my heart that there are still people like that out there. (I can actually do it without the lift if I have one other person and myself, but I'll take the help). There were a few trails that were chairable and I really enjoyed that.

I remembered one time when I went with XH and his parents and I had booked the rooms at a certain price. When we got there, they tried to charge me more and I pulled out my reservation sheet and said that this is the cost I was quoted. The desk person tried this song and dance, XH's mother wanted to just pay the extra, but I would have none of it and they finally honored the reservation cost. At the time I was made to feel like I was in the wrong by both the desk person and Xh's mother, but I knew I was not. And I realized now that who I am is not someone who rolls over and plays dead, yet at the end when XH was behaving so badly and I was so confused, I came very close to becoming someone who rolls over and plays dead. It is mind boggling to me now. I now sometimes think that the universe did me a favor and saved me.

It was a great trip and when I came home I started putting up new blinds, It takes about an hour per blind because it's remove the old blinds, rest, remove a bracket, rest,  remove a bracket, rest. Put up the new brackets, rest, put up the new blind, rest. But hey, I'm still putting up my own blinds. Another person would be handy, though. ;D  None of this is how I thought my life would end up, but adventures abound.

I hope everyone has wonderful adventures! Someone recommend a National Park for my next trip.
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I hope everyone has wonderful adventures! Someone recommend a National Park for my next trip.

I thought Glacier NP in Montana was pretty amazing; It's been a while, so I don't recall how ADA-friendly they were. Someday I'm hoping to take a long ride back there and continue up into Banff.

I was hoping to ride through Rocky Mountain NP a couple of years ago, but didn't realize they had timed entry on the only through-road in the entire area. I had to backtrack and it really screwed up the day.

Kudos on the blinds!

JB
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My relatives just got back from Glacier National Park and loved it.

I say Glacier or maybe Olympic.  Not sure what the ADA options are though.

Wow, hanging blinds!  Go you!  I need new blinds and don't think I could do any of them myself lol.  The damage that was done by being married to a builder.  He didn't take the time to teach me any of that and I got too comfortable allowing him to do all that for me.
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