Sideways,
I'm glad that you wrote the letter. I hope that it helped get some of those feelings/questions etc. out.
It helped for you to vent.
I think you already knew that sending the letter would be a waste of time.
I can't reason with my H. I know that.
But, for months I kept trying.
Really crazy.....
Write it out. File it away somewhere.
Maybe someday you will be able to share it with him. Maybe not.
Maybe someday - you won't feel the need to.
You're smart. You wrote it. You shared it. You got feedback before you sent it.
I used to be so reactionary - I feel the need to respond immediately.
I've learned - nothing regarding my H's MLC has any urgency at all.
It's like the weather in some places. For sure, it's going to change.
Hang in there.
L