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My Story Picking up the pieces-finding myself again
#30: August 01, 2023, 03:55:14 PM
Ok. Jury Duty Extension request complete. I chose Halloween, because, why not? For anyone following the cosmic joke, the site I just dealt with…….whooooo Nelly. You can’t just type your bday. You MUST use their archaic calendar pop up. And scroll backwards through time……until you reach the only conclusion you can when your finger is all tapped out, geez I’m old. Oh, and don’t you dare tap slightly off kilter. The calendar closes, and you enjoy it all over again. Took me 6 tries. Now that’s funny. 
Quick journal on the cosmic joke, how it always comes in 3’s, it being the 1st of the month and, a Super Moon. That bit about the Jury Duty? Last part of the joke. The 1st 2 were H contacting me bright and early today. Ooops, he forgot about his autopay on his rent, and it probably bounced. A few hours later, ooops, autopay for his gas bill went through today, too. 6 mos in to him “taking control” of (well 5 total) finances, and he was $1.08 short after I allowed him transfer to cover his rent oopsie. THERE’S a reason why I was in charge of the finances for our entire relationship, dude. You suck at it. The resentment he built towards me for “controlling the finances”……..good grief. I never stopped him from spending his money, never told him no, I just adjusted elsewhere to keep everything afloat. Now he is continually in his own way. And that’s with 5 things to cover, not the 30 I manage, still, now. I can’t see his account. He deposits money to maintain the joint, and I adjust for my son and I. I make sure his old bills are still paid. He thought it was easy. I guess I made it look easy? 5 bills dude. Just 5. Get a grip. And my rant is over. Laugh with me. It’s absurd. 🤣
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Picking up the pieces-finding myself again
#31: August 01, 2023, 07:53:35 PM
I am pretty sure I have a thread saying pretty much the same thing on finances. Its not controlling. Everything is budgeted. That is grown up stuff not controlling stuff!
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Married July 1991
Jan 2018 BD1 moved out I filed for Div/ H stopped it
Oct 2018 moved back
Oct 2020 BD2
Feb 2021 Div-29 1/2 years
July 2021 Married OW
Feb 2022  XH fired
June 2022 XH bring OW to meet family due to xMIL illness
May 2023 went NC after telling XH we could not be friends
Aug 2023 XH moves w/o OWife
May 2024 xMIL visits XH/OW in their new home
Aug 2024 cut relations w/XH fam.
Dec 2024 D33 expecting baby ( XH not told)

 

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