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#80: June 17, 2024, 05:51:51 AM
Anyways today  I told him that I changed my mind and the only contact we’ll have is about D11 or business, he monstered, told me I am crazy and the same old story, but I really going to try to be strong and firm about it! First time that I set limits

Nothing wrong with that boundary - it is rather simple - "as long as OW<x> is in your life, I won't be."  He can monster until the cows come home (and he is doing it because he is being held accountable for his actions and they HATE being held accountable) but it is very simple - his actions, his consequences.
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#81: August 03, 2024, 07:57:29 PM
Yo, how are you doing?
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