[Ibelieve]

I know, I really hate when people have that attitude... "I deserve it, so I am going to get it!"

We all deserve money, but we don't go out and rob banks saying... "Well, I deserve to have money, so I will have it"

Sorry, I guess I am  getting mad thinking about all my friends who have cheated or who have been the OW. I have never had to
think about all of them at the same time.

[kikki]

Good point about the money.  It does seem to be a very modern day 'follow your bliss' bandaid attitude.  Riles me too.

[stayed]

Interesting!  I grew up with the myth that HAPPY PEOPLE do not stray!  It's true too, seeing as our MLCer's were NOT HAPPY PEOPLE... obviously.  The odd part about it though, for the majority of their lives with us, THEY WERE HAPPY.  We were not ALWAYS happy, yet we did not stray.  Of course, we have not been in an MLC. 

It's all so confusing, eh!!!! 

hugs Stayed

[kikki]

Stayed - I had to read that a couple of times to get it 
It sure is confusing - I'm so glad I'm not in MLC
hugs

[Foxberry]

Great thread,

Funny how my H told me in April when we were "trying"    that OW had found a photograph of me and said to H "what are you doing with me when your wife is so pretty?" My H didn't actually tell me what his reply to the Tart was, but I don't think I would ever say something like that! and also I don't get why my H would TELL me a thing like that?  MLC??

Foxy xxx

[kikki]

Fox - ? for drama?
I'm really beginning to understand how important this seems to be for the MLCer

My H is desperately trying to prod me so I will react.  I'm not buying into it at all and he's getting more and more desperate.........

[Musica]

Many people ... especially those in MLC, but others too, ... confuse pleasure with happiness. They think that by chasing money, status, or sex they will get happiness, but what they get is just a quick fix shot of pleasure, and it leaves them afterwards still in their state of unhappiness. It is like a drug, they think that they need more then to make them happy. I think this is the mentality that OWs have too, taking someone else's man is a quick high, a status symbol, an ego boost. They need to break the addiction, and see that true happiness has nothing to do with the quick-fix pleasure.

Addicts can't be cured until they want to be. They must make the decision to break the addiction. Thats my 2p worth!

Link to next thread "The affair/OM/OW III"
http://mlcforum.theherosspouse.com/index.php?topic=423.0