[Tigger]

   No Rebel, we talked constantly, we saw each other at night, we talked during the day on the phone, we were in constant communication, I saw a change and inquired, then boom, all gone. She disappeared, hid, stopped all communication other than cursory answers to inquiries.

   She didnt want to work on anything, because she had found her true love. I was the mistake.

[honour]

Did she talk about any issues she had concerning your relationship?

Jan 2010 three week family holiday in NZ, wonderful. She didn't tell me there were any issues. She wasn't unhappy. Back at home we were still going out for dinners, date nights, chatting, meals together at home.

May 2010 she works abroad Mon-Fri. At weekends she comes home and we still do the things we have always done but I start to notice subtle changes in her. By August 2010 I was very concerned. Asked her some questions over the phone while she was abroad. Received an answer that I never in a million years thought I would ever get.

Said she was confused, said she needed her own space, said it was her not me. Said she had discovered herself. Had no intention of shacking up with the OM etc etc.

December 4th 2010 she vanished to other country and live with OM. We haven't exchanged a single word, email or phone call since. She works with OM and lives with OM. She has less "space" now than when she was married.

So no, she didn't discuss any issues with the marriage. She didn't point to anything I had done to cause her behaviour. She just ran away. The children ignore her attempts at contact, she doesn't see them.

It was sudden and shocking. It has been like a bereavement.

honour

[Rebel Yell]

Thanks for the answers. I was mostly wondering about working on things before MLC. Looks like that
has nothing to do with anything. I thought maybe it was a personality trait.