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#30: February 06, 2012, 10:13:36 AM
My ex is  Chelsea fan, has been since he was a boy.  He use to play squash weekly, but doesn't play anymore.  Still plays a lot of golf.  I guess the things that really enjoyed no longer brings them pleasure.

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Re: Does it seem like your MLCer is never physically well?
#31: February 07, 2012, 10:50:52 AM
Yeah...my H's golf clubs have been in the garage over a year since he moved out and he hasn't asked for them once.  He used to love to golf.  OW probably doesn't enjoy it, but I'm sure she's enjoying the new boat and sportscar that she drives all the time.   ::)

I agree that they do respond weird to the LBS weight loss.  D2 was 18 mos old when he left so I still had some baby weight to lose.  It literally fell off after he left and I started going to the gym which added to it.  I had to buy all new clothes because I got down to high school weight.  Anyway...H asked me once how I got so skinny, "are you doing meth or something?"   Wow... :o
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Re: Does it seem like your MLCer is never physically well?
#32: February 07, 2012, 02:31:40 PM
3 or 4 sets of golf clubs are sitting in the garage 31 months later....he recently seems to have rediscovered a bit of interest in football.....

We have quite a wonderful wine collection that I am slowly making my way through..it was his hobby...as was collecting single malt scotch..guess he can't really transport those things with him. Too bad I don't like scotch.

I on the other hand have discovered golf and during the season am playing 2-3 times a week...can't wait until spring!

Everything he used to like..he has walked away from..and I don't see his new life being so wonderful at all. But that's understandable really...his decision making skills seem a bit off these days  :)

It truly is crazy what happens to them as they struggle with this fantastic new life that they are creating....just wish it didn't knock us down so much...yet, we all are capable of getting back up on our feet...battered and bruised yes.....but functioning, growing. learning, expanding and being filled with wonder again....it just took me longer than some to see those "possibilities" and I need to make sure that I am grounded again in myself..and that's going to take some time as well...and then..watch out world!
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Re: Does it seem like your MLCer is never physically well?
#33: February 08, 2012, 10:28:36 AM
SK you are right the things that bought them pleasure no longer do my H would charge in from work,get changed and leave again within 5 minutes so he did not miss squash.

Newmamacrushed the weight loss thing is weird,I lost 35lbs after BD my H told my friend it didn't matter how ill I made myself he was never coming back,obviously I was doing it on purpose  :o

xyzcf like you I don't see my H having a wonderful new life,he has left behind everything he has loved for 24 years to live in a room at his brothers,the only people he has anything to do with is his M and B,in 24 years they never bothered about him,showed no interest in his life or kids and now they are far more important than me and his own kids,he has even chosen his M over his kids on occasion :(
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Re: Does it seem like your MLCer is never physically well?
#34: February 08, 2012, 01:42:25 PM
I don't know how I overlooked this thread, but I did. My H always has a cold, he hurt his back over the holidays, and before Xmas he ended up in the ER from dehydration working out at the gym. He also says he never sleeps anymore. Ummm, do you think the guilt of abandoning your family has anything to do with it? :o :o :o :o :o
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Re: Does it seem like your MLCer is never physically well?
#35: February 09, 2012, 02:12:34 AM
I think my H has sleep issues given that he checks our bank account at 1am and makes calls and texts at midnight,1am,4am,funny I thought he would be sleeping like a baby given that he has run off to a wonderful,happy new life  :o
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Re: Does it seem like your MLCer is never physically well?
#36: February 09, 2012, 05:01:48 PM
My ex also suffered from major sleep issues prior to BD and after he moved out.  He would sleep at odd hours of the day but unable to sleep at night.  He tried exercising but that didn't work.  He also had serious night sweats prior to BD.  It's odd looking back two years ago.....I didn't  realize how all these little details and signs add up.  As they say, Hindsight. We sure have learned so much on this forum. I sometimes wonder how many marriages are destroyed because of MLC and could have been saved. Just so sad. 
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