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#20: March 29, 2014, 04:04:11 PM
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Re: Anger- how it can be used in a postive direction
#21: March 29, 2014, 06:21:50 PM
I believe I'm passive aggressive which was probably why I didn't blow up when I found out my W was having an affair. I know I still have it in me, but I don't outwardly express it to her. I don't know how.

I'm currently using my aggression/anger in the gym. It give a certain amount of 'drive' when I work out and I do notice that I'm not so intense/lazier when I'm calmer. The anger also allows me to detach from her. It kicks my butt and stops me from feeling sorry for myself.
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Re: Anger- how it can be used in a postive direction
#22: March 29, 2014, 06:37:20 PM
Very good..I finally used it for determination to LET GO and to forge a new direction for myself.

I have no problem expressing it. I've had to stuff so many feelings for so long I now indulge myself from time to time. I have a much better handle on it since I haven't been in contact with the ex.
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There are two ways of spreading light:
Be the candle; or the mirror that reflects it

Don't ask why someone is still hurting you; ask why you keep letting them.What you allow continues.

At some point you have to get sick of going through the same sh!t.

Women are NOT rehabilitation centers for badly raised men. It is not your job to fix ,parent, raise or change him.
You want a partner not a project.
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Re: Anger- how it can be used in a postive direction
#23: March 31, 2014, 04:04:42 AM
http://fivelovelanguages-m0.s3.amazonaws.com/uploads/2012/11/GatewaytoAnger.pdf


The author Gary Chapman who wrote "The 5 Love Languages" (a highly suggested book for us to identify ourselves by the way)..has written a book on anger.
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There are two ways of spreading light:
Be the candle; or the mirror that reflects it

Don't ask why someone is still hurting you; ask why you keep letting them.What you allow continues.

At some point you have to get sick of going through the same sh!t.

Women are NOT rehabilitation centers for badly raised men. It is not your job to fix ,parent, raise or change him.
You want a partner not a project.
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