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MLC Monster Re: Truth Darts and Other New Ways of Communicating
#40: September 19, 2013, 11:02:01 AM
Hi UKS - I've used that but slightly differently
"I'm sorry you feel that way but you know it isn't true!"
It worked as far as my H is concerned at that time.
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Re: Truth Darts and Other New Ways of Communicating
#41: September 19, 2013, 02:37:54 PM
After months of being told it is all my fault...during one of our phone conversations ...i said ..
" u are creating an emotional disconnect between us bc of the third person you've brought into the marriage so stop playing the victim ...u are the perpetrator...not the victim."
H immediately disconnected ...did not like to hear the TRUTH.


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BD nov 2012
H 55 M 54
Married 25yrs

Initially : I don't want her and I don't want you.
PA with alienator 21 yrs younger mar 2012
OW came and took him Jan 2013
To find out if the grass is greener one must take risks.
I did'nt want this but after what I've done i will have to go.
I think I love her and I'm unsure about you.
If you love me you will have to let me go...I'll come back when I am old.
I want to have fun ..I can't live another 15 yrs with you.
WHY,WHY...asks himself.
When we both calm down we will talk...
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Re: Truth Darts and Other New Ways of Communicating
#42: September 20, 2013, 03:47:53 PM
Hi SongandDance

The simple negation of their weird reality works well sometimes, doesn't it?    :)

LBS - I think you blinded him with sheer well-informed science there!

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Affair discovered; three moves out and three attempts at return during 2012, culminating in "I'm not coming back" statement. Then DIY separation agreement - Feb 14 - which I wouldn't sign. He moved in with OW in 10/14 and I heard little more. I instigated D in 2016.  He's still living in rental with OW and her D but the cracks are starting to appear.
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