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#10: December 31, 2012, 09:43:53 PM
I am going to find some new passions, rediscover some old ones, and have more FUN!  I'm going to finish the opera I started in college before my birthday in September, finally learn how to swim, buy a car, and take some classes, for both fun and to further my career.  It's TIME!
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#11: December 31, 2012, 11:03:43 PM
I am getting back into shape and continue to increase my strength...not just physical but emotional too.  I am going to live in the moment more and analyze less.  I am going to spend more quality time with my kids and not sweat the small stuff.  2012 has been tough.  I don't care to do it again but I know that if my H drops bomb #3, I will survive.  Happy New Year All!!!

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Re: 2013. What are your goals?
#12: January 01, 2013, 12:51:02 AM
I am going to be even more grateful for all the blessings I have in my life and those on the way, donate more of my time to charity and pursue work that involves energy healing Reiki). Also, going to get my road bike license. Not sure how I will afford an actual bike but hey, one step at a time.
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Re: 2013. What are your goals?
#13: January 01, 2013, 01:09:34 AM
I plan to start smoking, gain weight and go deeper in debt (my running joke from every year, followed by "I'm batting 2 out of 3."  Lame I know).

Actually, I plan to get a new vehicle and continue to further my career at the new agency.  I also plan to return to being more social and accepting as many invitations as I can.  I still plan to be here for W if she happens to reach out for the life-saver I have floating in the water for her, but irregardless of that I want this year to be filled with pleasant memories.
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#14: January 01, 2013, 01:33:34 AM
not lame Thundarr, you made me chuckle ;)
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#15: January 01, 2013, 09:12:11 AM
mine is to just let life happen and be amazed by how wonderful it will be
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#16: January 01, 2013, 10:38:25 AM
Hi my first goal will be to have an alcohol free january and get down to the gym to get rid if the belly, lol.

I will also focus on me this year and what I want for me. I will be studying still, paychogy and I will be volunteering at a charity that helps young families cope with difficult social homelives, eg with young children, disabled children etc, to try and help the single parents or young couples to be empowered.  It will only take up a couple of hours a week, and it will be rewarding.

Also getting rid of loads of junk in the house, for cash hopefully, to buy more junk.

I will just be plodding on with my job and sorting my finances still, nearly there though.

I plan not to worry about what h does or does not do, unless the children are involved and upset by anything, he can do what he wants. Bored with his childishness now, time to move away from the playground.

I think that should do me plus the usual keeping boys and me happy and safe. Xx
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Re: 2013. What are your goals?
#17: January 01, 2013, 03:18:17 PM
Hey great thread Superdog - didn't know you were from Scotland - I am too :)

My goals for 2013 are to:

Write more music
Finish my novel (it started off as a futuristic novel but it's been so long it's almost historical now hee hee :)
Work on making my business a huge success and help lots of other business owners in the process
Socialise more (which relies slightly on the goal above)
Take some train journeys to places I've never been before
Go running at least 3 times per week
Meditate every day (nearly have this down)
Take friends and family up on their offers for me to go and stay with them
Learn to play the piano
Take a trip to New York and, if I can afford it, take a road trip from there right over to the West of the US


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#18: January 01, 2013, 05:13:49 PM
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I plan not to worry about what h does or does not do, unless the children are involved and upset by anything, he can do what he wants. Bored with his childishness now, time to move away from the playground.

IBIA - I like this a lot  :)  Know how you feel.
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#19: November 22, 2013, 05:33:16 AM
BD was only 3 months ago but I'm learning to detach and love myself again. I realized I can be independent and be happy..
I love cooking so I will get into that again after supporting H for so many years on what he wanted to do. I also learnt fruits & veggies carving and I will practice on that too

That's a small goal for me  ;) This will continue in 2014  ;D
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