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#130: August 15, 2014, 08:22:54 AM
this was my comment on article

good read...echoes something I have toyed with for several years now...feminists and women got what they said they wanted..society and men changed in many ways..many of them good...but women changed too..and in some ways..not so good...its a complicated witch's brew driven not just by relationships but by family law,government social programs , popular culture and the media...the pendulum swung too far..but the damage is too great and the suddenly insightful women you talk about are rare..and they get a steady diet of you go girl..and gender politics drive social programs that in reality sabotage the concept of not just marriage but long term relationships in general...their next step may be to acknowledge that men are no longer needed..with egg freezing ,artificial insemination , andif he doesn't make enough to be a cash machine when you are done with him,you can always marry the welfare state..
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Re: for some of the guys
#131: August 15, 2014, 08:43:41 AM
I'd like to agree with you rover?  But men still are needed.

 Women just don't want to have someone to compete with or control them or have to take care of them - at least I don't.

I was never a dyed in the wool feminist but I can see a couple of instances where women have gotten the short end of the stick with glass ceilings etc.

 As far as babies go? I don't think the "old fashioned way" is going out of style soon.

I don't think I'm asking for a lot maybe I am..I haven't found it yet! ;D ;D ;D ;D I just want an honest direct relationship.
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There are two ways of spreading light:
Be the candle; or the mirror that reflects it

Don't ask why someone is still hurting you; ask why you keep letting them.What you allow continues.

At some point you have to get sick of going through the same sh!t.

Women are NOT rehabilitation centers for badly raised men. It is not your job to fix ,parent, raise or change him.
You want a partner not a project.
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Re: for some of the guys
#132: August 16, 2014, 06:28:07 PM
So I guess the point of this article is, will you be spending it with anyone?....everyone is different..many can't wait to 'find' someone..as for me I have opted out..I have 3 kids to raise and I really have no time or inclination for anything more
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Re: for some of the guys
#133: August 17, 2014, 04:07:12 AM
Quote from: rover77 on August 16, 2014, 06:28:07 PM
I have 3 kids to raise and I really have no time or inclination for anything more
This too shall pass.

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Re: for some of the guys
#134: August 17, 2014, 04:17:45 AM
For me? It's all about where you are at in life. I ain't dead yet and if this last experience didn't kill me I guess I'll be alright. Many people have had worse.

Whether I get involved with another man again is anybody's guess.

I'm convinced at their base a relationship is all about CONTROL.
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There are two ways of spreading light:
Be the candle; or the mirror that reflects it

Don't ask why someone is still hurting you; ask why you keep letting them.What you allow continues.

At some point you have to get sick of going through the same sh!t.

Women are NOT rehabilitation centers for badly raised men. It is not your job to fix ,parent, raise or change him.
You want a partner not a project.
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