[terrified_in_TN]

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Reality is "Love" is not the fantasy we were force-fed as kids; the reality is much more sobering!

... marriage / LTR is disposable once we have got everything we can out of it or it is no longer what we "want"!

This new generation is even worse about it!

  I agree with you.  Love we are taught is pretty much the "perfect" emotion.  Problem is, us humans are NOT perfect.  Even happily married couples had times where "happily ever after" didn't just happen.  It took a lot of heartache and work.

  Oh, and don't get me started on this new "entitlement" generation!!!!!!!!!

-T

[ruggedendurance]

IMHO.

Love is when you cherish something or someone that is NOT yourself.

It can be an idea an ideal or a person.

To love unconditionally.    IMO.   Is to take the opinion of yourself and your ego out of the equation. 

It is to see value and beauty in something other than yourself.      And allow yourself to adore it.

[hobo1]

Glad to see the Man Cave...  hope my fellow brothers are well.  I must be missing something, but why does this topic have a warning banner against abusive and offensive material?

Is this an insinuation that men are naturally abusive?  Since the start of this journey...  from BD to D, to years after, I realize how wrongly stereotypical the world is.  The assumption is that the man has the MLC and leaves his wife, becomes irrational and destroys his family.  This carries on into divorce court, where the man has next to no chance of gaining custody of the children, and more than likely need to pay his ex wife alimony...  and in many states it's alimony for the rest of his natural life.

Dare the man expose this truth, he is seen as bitter and angry.  The leaving wife is given all the sympathy, any complaint by her is met with support and understanding...  After all, men are naturally abusive, controlling and offensive.

[ruggedendurance]

Hobo,

Haven't seen you.

I have a problem.

I've seen women hold a man responsible for everything...   That is wrong with her.

I feel.    That women are playing a card that we have no answer for.

I am not the guy that beat the $hit out of you.    I am not the guy that abused women for generations................

I'm a just a guy.

That had total control over  racism,  over depression,  over all oppression inflicted upon man................. or woman.

My suggestion"

Find the son of a b!tc# that destroyed you opinion of men.    Or.   Find out why men are treating you this way.

[Picton]

Bitter and twisted women who play the victim grrrrr. Sh$t happens to us all - you choose how it effects your life no one else. What a waste of a good life if you elect to live it in that way.

So many people have a large sense of entitlement - what makes them so special that the world owes them  and everyone else on the plant should be paying for it.

Back off to my shell

Kia kaha - stay strong

[ruggedendurance]

Picton,

Welcome.

Jump in.    Your head is in no danger.

[Picton]

Thanks rugged - have to say I am loving this thread.           Was a little concerned it would go pear shaped            It's been a pleasure and a honour kind sirs to read your posts.     May the honest dialogue continue.

Kia kaha - stay strong

[Braveheart]

I've had a standard response to the "All my X's were @$$holes" statements from women I've met this past year, it's.."Strange that, have you noticed that all these @$$holes have one thing in common?...You chose them" Needless to say it has not helped my cause in their case, but I feel good saying it and walking away...

[OldPilot]

New thread

http://mlcforum.theherosspouse.com/index.php?topic=6145.0