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#60: January 16, 2011, 03:50:38 PM
well I know he felt the pain big time at two seprate occassions enough to consider suicide

The second time I reached out to him in the email he sent which I would have rather gone to see him but I don't think that I would of because  ow was there. I wanted to call him on the phone but chose to just email.

And as far as I'm concerned email sucks big time to express any emotion at all
Might work for him -doesn't do a damn thing for me.

I found where all my pain is attached to forgiven these people who I felt needed it and that was done quite a while ago. The two relationships I spoke of I am redealing with now as it really didn't seem important until I couldn't figure out why after four months why I was still just about paralized in paiin. Then I started to think back and found these two relationships.

I remeber crying to my aunt after the first relationship ended in that kind of betrayal  "I would rather have a broken bone than this..then someone could at least give me an idea about when it would heal When does the pain stop?"

She answered "Whenever you want it to". She also said the same thing "Be glad you feel it"
Fat lot of help that did for me I'm 23 with no frame of referance back then.
And I'll be damned at 51 I still feel the same way.
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Re: The difference between guilt and remorse
#61: January 16, 2011, 04:13:06 PM
Thanks for this...my H is defo in the guilt stage. not reached the remorse one and I'm not sure he will....time will tell i guess
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Re: The difference between guilt and remorse
#62: January 17, 2011, 04:30:26 AM
That is an excellent post -- somewhere here there is a thread on the subject of guilt; perhaps we could combine them?  It fits perfectly...

It also shows that what my H feels is guilt, not remorse. 

OP, if you read this, can you find it? 

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Re: The difference between guilt and remorse
#63: January 17, 2011, 06:20:09 AM
Quote from: Trustandlove on January 17, 2011, 04:30:26 AM
That is an excellent post -- somewhere here there is a thread on the subject of guilt; perhaps we could combine them?  It fits perfectly...

It also shows that what my H feels is guilt, not remorse. 

OP, if you read this, can you find it?
I am reading this, not sure I know which post you are referring to but I will look.
If you find the post or threads I will be happy to merge them.  :) :) :)
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Re: The difference between guilt and remorse
#64: January 17, 2011, 06:26:56 AM
It's called "their GUILT", started Nov 21 2010 (I think I got that date right...)  It has a green scowling face symbol rather than the open book....

WGH, do you agree about merging these?
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Re: their GUILT
#65: January 17, 2011, 06:36:13 AM
Ok done these are merged together!
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Re: their GUILT
#66: January 17, 2011, 06:53:54 AM
Hi trusting do you mean the guilt and remorse i posted yesterday if so cause you can xxx
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Re: their GUILT
#67: January 17, 2011, 10:51:45 AM
My H has never shown guilt. He hides every emotion. I doubt he ever will. This is one reason I am not so sure how I feel about ever getting a relationship back with him.

I can say tho, that right now I have so many other things going on, that I can get a flying leap if he feels guilty. He SHOULD feel guilty. He has destroyed a family, that SHOULD carry a lot of guilt. But  should, would could.... those famous words!

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Re: their GUILT
#68: January 18, 2011, 07:35:48 AM
Growing;
I couldn't agree more with your post.  They SHOULD feel guilty...they destroyed a family.  I guess I am more
angry about the lack of guilt and/or remorse than the OW..weird huh?  My h hasn't expressed either.
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