[Trustandlove]

Just to be very clear, this isn't meant to be my story -- I really did start this to see if anyone had had any success explaining this to friends, and if any friends had had anything to say to the MLCer.

I know that somewhere I had read on a thread that someone's friend had been very truthful with the MLCer; I wonder what was said -- perhaps there a re good lines there. 

Maybe someone's friend had read something useful.

That kind of thing.

One of the reasons being that we, as the LBS, often have "cooties" as far as the MLCer is concerned, so anything we say might be dismissed just because it is us saying it. 

But some good friends might get a different reaction.

Addendum -- I thought about this, and wanted to add:  sometimes we pretty much have to use examples from our own lives, I do see that that can blur the lines between a discussion and our story, but that really isn't intended here. 

[kikki]

Hi T&L
I had one very close family friend be very open and honest about how he felt about how my MLCer was treating our boys.  He was kind and concerned and to any sane person, it would not have been taken as an afront.
But MLC monster appeared and it turned ugly.  Not so much to our friend, but I received a phonecall immediately with what sounded as though foam was frothing from my MLCer's mouth. He was beyond angry.
I suspect the real trigger for that was because our friend's parting words to him were, just please do not force this woman you have decided to suddenly live with, on your boys.

I have also heard whisperings through the grapevine that my MLCer made excuses for his behaviour, based on my supposedly long list of character flaws, if he was ever questioned about his choices.  I do believe this took him some time to master the knack of though, because prior to that, I had someone from work say to me that usually in these situations, the person leaving badmouths the spouse/partner but that that was not happening at all.  Quite the opposite.

At the time I thought that was very odd.  We had always had a close and easy relationship and I had no idea the crazy that I was going to be dealing with for so long.