[Still]

I read the book, too. I thought it was very interesting. It really gave me a real understanding of what someone in MLC might be going through.

[good4me]

Reading a book called "Driving with Plato the meaning behind life's milestones by Robert Rowland Smith. Has an entire chapter on MLC .Will let you know more once I finish it.

[arp1]

I've just read:

'"I Love You But I'm Not In Love With You": Seven Steps to Saving Your Relationship' by Andrew G Marshall (http://www.andrewgmarshall.com/i-love-you-but-im-not-in-love-with-you/)

Brilliant! It's not directly about MLC, but it is mentioned. Marshall doesn't like the term, but he hits on several of the traits/features of the MLCer (and the LBS). He also makes it clear that in relationships, whatever one partner says, it's always six-of-one/half-a-dozen-of-the-other, so although the MLCer heaps the blame on the LBS, they never see that they were equally culpable, i.e. they have to take responsibility. The benefits of constructive arguing and resolving issues is a big theme: something myself and my wife have never done successfully. I've just ordered another of his books: "Help Your Partner say ‘Yes’: Seven Steps to achieving better cooperation and communication".

I've also just read "For Women Only:  What You Need to Know About the Inner Lives of Men" and "For Men Only: A Straightforward Guide to the Inner Lives of Women" by Shaunti and Jeff Feldhahn.

Both great books, though I'm not a Christian so the religious/Biblical stuff grated a bit. I read the former because I wanted some reassurance that I am 'normal', and guess what, I am! All the feelings of doubt and questioning I'd gone through about me and who I was were removed by this book; it's helped me to see that what has happened in my marriage was not all my fault and that our needs were not being met by each other.

[LoveMeMyself]

Just read an interesting story about infidelity.  The couple has written a book called "Surprised by Love".  It doesn't specifically state this was a MLC but might be interesting to read their entire story.  The website: surprisedbylove.com if anybody is interested in checking it out.

[StandandDeliver]

We could write a novel about a character in MLC - we are experts afterall. And between us all we have so much incredible and extroadinary material to make a composite main character into a force for real melodrama .  I propose we call it either "MONSTER" or "THE SCRIPT".

We already know the plot, if you have any suggestions for the family situation, the MLC personality, the circumstances around BD, the character (or lack there of) of OW/OM, the type of MLCer (boomerang etc) the cycling behaviour, the financial crisis, and dialogue (we all know the obligatory ILBINILWY, but other classic lines taken directly from the mouths of our darling MLCers would add authenticity).

Hehehe. Sometimes you have to laugh...

[LettingGo]

It's already out there.... it's called "Something's Gotta Give" and also "It's Complicated".

[truth_seeker]

It's already out there.... it's called "Something's Gotta Give" and also "It's Complicated".

ROFLMAO!!! Oh LG you have no idea how funny you are.  Thanks for the laugh!!  I really needed that.  Sad thing is I really liked those movies pre-MLC.   

S&D
Laughter is always the best medicine.  And we could ALWAYS use a laugh.   

[Mamma Bear]

      Soundtrack = Running on Empty

[Rebel Yell]

I was thinking of a song by Harry Nillson called "your breaking my heart"

sorry.............

[Stillpraying]

"I was only ever infatuated with you and I'm really sorry, but I shouldn't have married you" (Spoken after 9 yrs of marriage and 4 children and the only admission of fault regarding the marriage breakdown) then add in " I treasure the time we dated before marriage and our weekend away (one month prior!).