[StillStanding]

Barnes and Noble's online store has a clearance sale on The Sex-Starved Wife: $3.99 for the hardcover and $2.99 for the softcover while supplies last.

Link to the softcover:
http://search.barnesandnoble.com/The-Sex-Starved-Wife/Michele-Weiner-Davis/e/9781616882785/?itm=6&USRI=michele+weiner-davis

Link to the hardcover:
http://search.barnesandnoble.com/The-Sex-Starved-Wife/Michele-Weiner-Davis/e/9781616795269/?itm=2&USRI=michele+weiner-davis

Good luck!

[OldPilot]

I just got another book from the library that I will be reading.
It is called "Unholy Ghost" - Writers on depression by Nell Casey.
It has contributions on it from 23 different writers.
It comes from another list of books on the other website.
Will report back when I have finished, or maybe in the middle.

Also bumping this thread up for other contributions.

Ok I finished this book.
DO NOT BOTHER WITH IT.
I had a lot of trouble reading it as it was mostly ramblings from depressed people,
there were a few paragraphs here and there that were ok.
Not really worth the time and effort to read it.

So now I have another book.
"Controlling People - How to recognize and deal with people who try to control you"
by Patricia Evans

[OldPilot]

So now I have another book.
"Controlling People - How to recognize and deal with people who try to control you"
by Patricia Evans

I just finished reading this book this morning.
It was quite interesting and I will try to put down some notes for myself and others.
Here is a website fro Ms. evans on an overview of the book:
Also there is some more explanation if you click in the upper left hand portion of this page.

http://www.patriciaevans.com/book3.html

This is a little story from the book which is somewhat crucial to the crux of the title;(somewhat paraphrased from the text)
"When Jack was three years old his parents, D & J took him to get some winter clothes.
While in the store Jack fell down and injured his knee and began to cry.
His parents  said almost simultaneuosly as they pulled him up " You are not hurt. You have nothing to cry about.
You are just trying to get attention." Each of these statements invalidated Jack's pereception and was the opposite of the truth.
Jacks experience was presented to him backwards. An inner occurence his experience was defined from outside of himself by his parents.
If this is the way Jack was always treated, How might he have defined himself'"
If we believe that his parents definition is more real than our own we come to know ourselves in a backwards way. from the outside in, not the inside out."

There is another story which i believe is too long to recant her but the jist of it is that as a child you have a "Teddy Bear", you hug him and hold him,throw him around.
When you grow up Teddy becomes a real person and all is fine with life, until one day, Teddy actually talks back and questions you. You start yelling and screaming at
Teddy becuase he is not acting like the pretend person that you have come to know and love. This pretend person is the one that is being controlled by the controller.

At the very end of the book she goes into how to break this control. Her theory is that the person needs to confront the controller with the word "WHAT?"
Also by setting clear boundaries.
I was expecting her to say by detachment but that was not used.
She did say that the controller needed connections with the controlled person so I believe that we are on the right trail with detachment, to break the connection that the controller.

Next book on the menu is "Talking to Depression" by Carol J Strauss

[OldPilot]

I see I forgot to review the "Talking to Depression" book by Carol J Strauss.
It was ok, I would have been better off reading it about 9 months ago.
It pretty much was a review of validation, the stages of depression, how to act around a depressed person.

Now I am reading Understanding Men's Passages by Gail Sheehy.
I am only up to chapter 3 but it seems pretty good so far.

[OldPilot]

Understanding Men's Passages by Gail Sheehy.
I just finished this book.
I enjoyed this one as it goes into explanations of different periods of a mans life.
A little bit of his twenties, thirties,more in depth on 40's,50's,60's and beyond.
It has some funny anecdotes on each stage.

There is some mention of women in the book, but  it would be nice to read a similar book on women's passages.

One thing it did say is men live longer if they are married!
Also that the older that men get the smaller the life expectancy age gap is between men and women.


I have a book called "The Script" why men cheat, up for the next review

[LifeGoesOn]

I have a book called "The Script" why men cheat, up for the next review

Can't wait to hear what you think of this one!. It gave me a good chuckle. 

[Buggy31]

Have any of you ever read this all time popular children's novel?  I love children's lit...and I'm starting to delve into a new genre...young adult.  It's been fun reading from the young adult genre and is sort of like a window into my "adolescent husbands" issues.  Anyway if you haven't read a wrinkle in time...I think you should...Laura Munson references it in her book...that's why I read it...

It's very telling.....to say the least.

Don't know if this is a discussion persay...just my 2 cents worth 

[trusting]

Yes, I have read it many times as well as other books by Madeline L'Engle.  Great book!!

[OldPilot]

Ok I finished

"The Script" (The 100% absolutely predictable things men do when they cheat)
by Elizabeth Landers & Vicky Mainzer

First a funny thing happened while I was reading this book.
My W I think snooped on this book. I wasn't really publicly showing it to her.
Anyway on her computer a trail of websites about men cheating showed up for a few days.
So she must have thought that by me reading this book I was cheating on her. LOL!!!!

Anyways the book is quite good for what happens before and through replay.
Even explains how it is "childhood issues" that cause all of these things to happen.
Goes over different types of Bomb Drops.
The lying and all that goes on during the affairs.
It also gives the LBS some lines(to say) and advice of what to do and expect during this phase.

The finale was a little disappointing. It is only 5 pages long.
It basically says that the "hero" (the cheater)  doesn't get what he really wants in the end.
That the story doesn't turn out like he was expecting.

The book is only 173 pages and small paper with large type.
So it is a pretty quick read if you have time.

Right now I ran out of books because the ones I have on order from the library didn't come in yet.
So when I get another and finish it I will post the review.

Hey, other people are allow to post here too!!!!!  (HInt) (Hint) READ!!!!!! 

[OldPilot]

Just finished the book "Infidelity"  by Don-David Lusterman

This book has some good advice in it and takes you through the different types of affairs including MLC.
Their is a section on "life crisis" including MLC.
It deals with the secrecy, children, family and freinds, advice to the one in crisis.

I question some of what is written to the one in crisis. 
I wonder how many people having an affair are going to read this book.
Much of the advice seems to be geared towards them.
Not that there is anything wrong with the advice that they are being given just whether they will take it or not.

The one thing that also seems absent from this book is the exposure theory, that is put forth on other websites as a technique for breaking the affair.
Very little if anything is written on this subject.

I have another book on infidelity "Not just Friends" by Shirley Glass. up next.