[subooru]

I have two new titles that have been very helpful:

Is he depressed or what? by David B. Wexler

Mr. Mean - Saving your Relationship from the Irritable Male Syndrome by Jed Diamond

These are books I have had, but revisit frequently:

Divorce Remedy by Michele Wiener

Good Men behaving Badly by David Wexler

Why Can't I get through to you by Terrance Real

I don't want to talk about it - Male Depression by Terrance Real

[NinjaGirl]

I just read i love you, but... i'm not IN LOVE with you by Andrew G Marshall.

It was really good and pretty insightful as to how things get to this point.

[liveandlearn]

Even though H should be reading this not me: "No more Mr. Nice Guy". Who is the nice guy: a man whose life seems so under control until BOOM he does something to destroy it all; a guy who frustrates his wife because he is so afraid of conflict that nothing ever gets resolved; a guy who seeks the approval of others; who hides their perceived flaws and mistakes; who puts other people's needs and wants before their own; who sacrifices their personal power and often plays the victim.... etc.

Does this sounds familiar to anyone? My H to a T.

[NinjaGirl]

Liveandlearn...

I'm so getting that book... I'm with you, my H to a T. 

[LifeGoesOn]

This is not a book, but a page of inspiring quotes. Some are cliche, but easy and lite to read.

http://www.livinglifefully.com/thinkerseroosevelt.html

[Shantilly Lace]

ugh wish I could get these books here.

I just can't spend too much at present, xmas has killed me.

And they aren't on kindle either.

[unbroken]

I think this thread is incredibly valuable.  All the advice is to "read as much as you can about MLC", but no one gives a list of books.
I wanted to let everyone know about a book called, "Broken Heart on Hold: Surviving Separation" by Linda Rooks (http://www.amazon.com/Broken-Heart-Hold-Surviving-Separation/dp/078144439X).  It's not specifically about MLC, although her husband may have been in MLC.  It's about Standing for your marriage, and therefore relevant to all of us.  I read it over and over and found great comfort in it.  At the time, long before I found this website, I felt alone.  There are lots of books about marriage and divorce, but very few about separation.
I agree about "Divorce Remedy" by Michelle Weiner-Davis, another book I read over and over.  Conway's "Men in Midlife Crisis" is a must.
Based on this thread I ordered "Crossing the Soul's River" by William O. Roberts.  I haven't actually read it thoroughly, just skimmed it because I wanted to give it to my husband this week.  From what I read, it seems good.  It's targeted to the MLCer.  It has some really valuable ideas for someone who is ready to work on themselves.  Don't know if he'll read it.  He has admitted that "there's a component of MLC to all of this" though.  So maybe.

[LettingGo]

I'm going to recommend "Loving What Is" by Byron Katie.... she's got a website that is particularly comprehensive www.thework.com

It's got NOTHING to do with MLC or Marriage Reconciliation and EVERYTHING to do with living your life without suffering, regardless of your circumstances... years ago I discovered her approach, which is not necessarily new, just packaged in a very simple way to understand. I found her technique to be a "shortcut" out of my negative thoughts... literally, gone in 60 seconds as long as I remember to do it, hahaha!!

[In this for ME]

Didn't get to read this whole thread again but if the two books "After the Affair" and "7 levels of Intimacy" were mentioned I like these books a lot.

I believe, for me anyway, there comes a point in time in this journey that you're ready to read certain things and be able to connect with them. EVEN if the MLC'er doesn't come back ( and we are all living "as if")

 These books I'm finding are presenting questions to me that I had thought of before but somehow finding them in a written word gives me room for pause. And they are helping me reflect a great deal. And I'm considering the possiblity that I may just have to walk away; but would be ok with it. But that's today...Lord only knows about tomorrow.

The intimacy book for me (once it gets into the higher levels) is very scary. I don't know if I could obtain these things with anyone; but that would be due to my own issues.

[LifeGoesOn]

I just re read "Why is God Laughing?" by Deepak Chopra.

It is a work of fiction about a guy in a mid-life crisis of sorts, but the message for LBSs is wonderful.

The character learns lessons from a mysterious stranger.
The lessons are delivered bibliotherapy style to the reader but are explained at the end. Read to enjoy and learn the lessons later.

Mainly it reminded me that Joy, gratitude and laughter can be found all the time, everywhere. There is much to be learned in these lessons though they are very simply described.

I recommend it as it is a change from the type of books many of us are devouring these days, but also is focusing on self and examining your perspective.