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#30: September 08, 2018, 02:48:43 PM
Drilling holes is easy. Getting them in the right place is another story.😄 Are you allowed to drill holes in a rental? How were the curtains hung before you got there, inquiring minds want to know?

Enjoy the new place and extra room. I hope there is a place for you to withdraw occasionally,  and read a book alone or something. Quiet time is sometimes essential to our well being. Remember that it's not only about your W and kids. YOU matter, too.

Take care of Navigator.
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Re: Bomb dropped in 2008 | Still married and together 10 years later
#31: September 08, 2018, 06:00:58 PM
Enjoy your new place, Navigator.
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Re: Bomb dropped in 2008 | Still married and together 10 years later
#32: January 03, 2019, 09:54:41 AM
Wishing all of you a very happy new year.

Christmas was wonderful this year. It was just we five in our new home, I intentionally took my SIM out of my smartphone and put it in an old Nokia. No smartphone for two weeks and, curiously, about 4 people called me on my mobile in that time.

Lots of time spent with the kids. Taking them to parks, playing electric guitar and table football in the basement, going on bus rides, going ice skating.

W and I had nice times too. Played cards in the evening, had long chats etc.

"Baby" is walking, climbing and dancing now. He absolutely loves music and always tries to copy the dance moves if watching a music DVD.

W's sister in Australia is unraveling big time. I am ultimately convinced that it is "Daddy issues" at play. Out of all six siblings, she had the very least amount of time with her Dad growing up.

Stay safe everyone.
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Bomb & Separation: 28th January 2008
Moved in with OM for 5 months
EA/PA persisted from 2008 to 2010
Kids: DS ( 10 ), DD ( 9 ) confirmed mine with paternity tests
Another DS (3)
MLC lasted 6-7 years
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Re: Bomb dropped in 2008 | Still married and together 10 years later
#33: January 03, 2019, 10:02:32 AM
Happy New Year to you too!
That little one is on the move already?  :o
They grow up quick
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Re: Bomb dropped in 2008 | Still married and together 10 years later
#34: January 04, 2019, 01:59:51 AM
Hey in it

They do grow up quickly!! He's 20 months old now and into everything.

His vocabulary is growing at a rate of knots too, including with words he's simply made up for things.

Off to London in a few weeks to meet all my old mates from boarding school.

Hope you are well!
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Re: Bomb dropped in 2008 | Still married and together 10 years later
#35: January 04, 2019, 03:52:29 PM
Happy New Year Navigator, sounds like it's going to be wonderful for you :)
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Re: Bomb dropped in 2008 | Still married and together 10 years later
#36: January 04, 2019, 04:06:54 PM
Yep I'm doing ok ...
New life stuff is really going good and it's a much more down to earth, honest, real, satisfying and realistic relationship.
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There are two ways of spreading light:
Be the candle; or the mirror that reflects it

Don't ask why someone is still hurting you; ask why you keep letting them.

At some point you have to get sick of going through the same sh!t.

Women are NOT rehabilitation centers for badly raised men. It is not your job to fix ,parent, raise or change him.
You want a partner not a project.
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Re: Bomb dropped in 2008 | Still married and together 10 years later
#37: March 10, 2019, 03:26:28 PM
Hoping all of you are well, especially you in it!

Life feels "normal" at the moment. The only thing I really have time for is work and family nowadays.  We went away to Dresden last weekend (all 5 of us).

I am afraid to use the dark purple "reconnected" colour on here lest complacency sets in on my part.
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Bomb & Separation: 28th January 2008
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EA/PA persisted from 2008 to 2010
Kids: DS ( 10 ), DD ( 9 ) confirmed mine with paternity tests
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Re: Bomb dropped in 2008 | Still married and together 10 years later
#38: March 10, 2019, 05:46:28 PM
Hi Navigator

Yep things are still going well. Having our share of challenges but help each other through them.
Complancey can undermine a relationship.
I myself would say you certainly have earned a purple book.
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There are two ways of spreading light:
Be the candle; or the mirror that reflects it

Don't ask why someone is still hurting you; ask why you keep letting them.

At some point you have to get sick of going through the same sh!t.

Women are NOT rehabilitation centers for badly raised men. It is not your job to fix ,parent, raise or change him.
You want a partner not a project.
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Re: Bomb dropped in 2008 | Still married and together 10 years later
#39: March 17, 2019, 04:42:09 PM
Great to hear that things are going well, in it.

Things OK here too. W even admits to loving me. Imagine that.

That purple book thing...... hard to feel it applies to me.

Learning and vigilance is eternal.

Really have no idea what I'd "advise" anyone on here. You ultimately have to consult and submit to your intuition.  To that "still small voice".  Although there were many times when I wanted to quit emotionally, that wanting to quit was never permanent. There was never a time when I felt "done" and many times when I wished I could be "done".

Hang in there everybody, whatever path you choose.
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Bomb & Separation: 28th January 2008
Moved in with OM for 5 months
EA/PA persisted from 2008 to 2010
Kids: DS ( 10 ), DD ( 9 ) confirmed mine with paternity tests
Another DS (3)
MLC lasted 6-7 years
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