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Offline Milly

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« Reply #10 on: May 08, 2018, 03:06:39 PM »
I'm here following you Kit! You're doing so well. I'm excited for your new career opportunity and of course, there's that sweet boy of yours. Wouldn't miss your thread.xxx
Married 1989, together since 1984 
BD May 2014,
D23, D20, S13
OW Physical Affair. He and she said she turned 34 the month of BD. She turned 50 last year.

Offline CanLetGo

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Re: Not Broken Just Bent
« Reply #11 on: May 08, 2018, 03:34:00 PM »
Following KIT, you are handling this with dignity and grace x
Me 44
H 47
3 young adult kids
BD December 2013, left home August 2014
OW 17 years younger

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Re: Not Broken Just Bent
« Reply #12 on: May 08, 2018, 05:05:07 PM »
Attaching, KIT. Need to make sure I get my Judgy McJudgy fashion trend fix. 
“Lighthouses don’t go running all over an island looking for boats to save; they just stand there shining.” -Anne Lamott

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Re: Not Broken Just Bent
« Reply #13 on: May 08, 2018, 05:51:38 PM »
Following along in the MLCer fashion blog KIT. ;D
Me 37; H 41
Together 20 years; married 12
No kids, no pets
BD #1 Late October 2017 - H says he feels like he is living with a room mate at times (ILYBINILWY) and has considered separation.
BD #2 12/22/17 - Day after legal separation signed, I find out about OW after H said there wasn't one.

"Let the past die. Kill it, if you have to. It's the only way for you to become what you are meant to be." Kylo Ren - Star Wars: The Last Jedi

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Re: Not Broken Just Bent
« Reply #14 on: May 08, 2018, 06:03:42 PM »
I'm glad everything is looking up for you. Keep focusing on yourself and your son.

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Re: Not Broken Just Bent
« Reply #15 on: May 08, 2018, 08:24:38 PM »
attaching KIT.  You are strong.  Look away is so true!
M: 47
W: 45
S15 & S11 [from MLCer1]
BD#1: 9/2017
BD#2: 11/2017
no D filed, not seeking action at this time
Separated: 12/2017
OM: EAs up to at least 5 now.  Not sure on PAs.

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Re: Not Broken Just Bent
« Reply #16 on: May 08, 2018, 08:27:49 PM »

WE've been through much heartache and trauma. But we are still here. Not broken. And in many ways, much stronger than before. Stronger than we ever thought we could be. 

One more blessing in my life are my HS friends. You all have talked me down from a ledge on more than one occasion, and I am ever so grateful. So I'm focusing on me now. My mirror work--and there's a lot.


Continuing on with you, KIT. 

Yes indeed, stronger than we ever thought we could be. 
After all, tomorrow is another day.
Together 16 years - married 6
BD - 1/1/16
His divorce final 7/16
Married OW - 7/17
a consistent semi-vanisher in the same small town

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Re: Not Broken Just Bent
« Reply #17 on: May 09, 2018, 10:40:51 AM »
GREAT new thread KIT; nice summary at the beginning.
We all struggle to do the right thing (look away).
You’ve come so far though.
Keep up the great work.
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Offline KeepItTogetherTopic starter

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Re: Not Broken Just Bent
« Reply #18 on: May 09, 2018, 12:10:25 PM »
Thank you all so much for following along. It truly means the world to me! ❤️❤️❤️

I know I’m supposed to keep my eyes off my Mlcer. But I do have daily interaction with him and well, I feel compelled to share his fashion choices. 😬

Today was a navy linen suit, pale blue gingham button down shirt, teal tie, white belt and white loafers.

Here’s the thing. I do think he looks good. Except for the MLC beard. And there is a part of me that is sad that he dresses this way for another. That is an assumption I know and could very well be false. Part of my work is to stop this thinking but I need to be honest with myself. Oh I wish I didn’t miss him so much!
Me 46
H 45
S11
BD 5/16
H Moved out 6/16
OW--yes. Worked for H. EA turned into PA while I was in chemo.

Offline Kitty

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Re: Not Broken Just Bent
« Reply #19 on: May 09, 2018, 12:20:44 PM »
That actually doesn't sound too bad KIT. Thankfully Grumpy still dresses the same as before. The only difference I see in his appearance is there are days when he says he is too lazy and unmotivated to shave, and other days he's clean shaven. He can't really grow a full beard, he has these patches where hair won't fill in properly, so he shaves before it becomes super noticeable.
Me 37; H 41
Together 20 years; married 12
No kids, no pets
BD #1 Late October 2017 - H says he feels like he is living with a room mate at times (ILYBINILWY) and has considered separation.
BD #2 12/22/17 - Day after legal separation signed, I find out about OW after H said there wasn't one.

"Let the past die. Kill it, if you have to. It's the only way for you to become what you are meant to be." Kylo Ren - Star Wars: The Last Jedi

 

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