Author Topic: MLC Monster Cognitive Dissonance  (Read 1883 times)

Offline DianaDeBelflor

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MLC Monster Re: Cognitive Dissonance
« Reply #10 on: May 21, 2018, 08:13:00 PM »
From Wikipedia (and consistent with my undergrad psychology textbook):

"In psychology, cognitive dissonance is the mental stress or discomfort experienced by an individual who holds two or more contradictory beliefs, ideas, or values at the same time, performs an action that is contradictory to one or more beliefs, ideas or values, or is confronted by new information that conflicts with existing beliefs, ideas, or values."

So, for example, this would be expressed by a husband who claims that his wife is not a family oriented person but who goes out and finds himself a mistress who has a boyfriend. (No idea whom I might be talking about here...)  ::)

Offline Nerissa

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Re: Cognitive Dissonance
« Reply #11 on: May 22, 2018, 05:26:59 AM »
I am a really slow learner, but the advice above is the only way.  It took me ages to truly understand what it means to get out of their way. I’m still not properly detached.  But while you are around, they can continue to blame you.  The cognitive dissonance on your part is the struggle to excuse his actions.  Give yourself and him a chance to see the wood from the trees.

I know I hindered things by hanging in there and caused extra distress for myself.

 

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