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My Story Re: Baby steps, Hindsight, Forethought, Healing and Rebirth
« Reply #20 on: June 08, 2018, 09:45:14 PM »
One name came to my mind. Peek-a-boo.

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Re: Baby steps, Hindsight, Forethought, Healing and Rebirth
« Reply #21 on: June 09, 2018, 03:00:13 AM »
How about "Hide and Sneak".
Me: 50
H: 40
S19, D15
Together for 19 years
BDay in 2004, 2011 and now March 5 2017
Ran away on 5 March BD
No OW
Returned home 'underdone' 1 July 2017.
Left again 22 October 2017.
H - Silent and non-communicative

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Re: Baby steps, Hindsight, Forethought, Healing and Rebirth
« Reply #22 on: June 09, 2018, 05:17:52 AM »
D!ck
H-54
me-52
ow-30
married 1986
BD April 6 2013 day after family went out for sons birthday.
I packed his bags two days later...semi-vanisher
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Re: Baby steps, Hindsight, Forethought, Healing and Rebirth
« Reply #23 on: June 09, 2018, 06:30:55 AM »
Lol. I can share mine with you. It is similar to nah's suggestion... d!ckhe@d
Me 49
Him 49
22 years together - Married 20
BD1 - August 26, 2016 - ILYBINILWY
BD 2 - August 28, 2016 - OW discovered EA - Kicked him out
D16 D19
April 2017 - Legal Separation Agreement
August 2017 - I filed for divorce
Divorce final February 12 2018

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Re: Baby steps, Hindsight, Forethought, Healing and Rebirth
« Reply #24 on: June 11, 2018, 05:02:54 AM »
Richard Cranium?
Me - 56
STBXW - 48
Together 19 years - Married 17 at separation
S - 12
D - 8
2 Dogs (1 each)
BD#1 - August 2015
Atomic BD - 13 Dec 2015
House sold & separated - Mar 2016
Mid-Lifer filed for D
Waiting for final decree

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Re: Baby steps, Hindsight, Forethought, Healing and Rebirth
« Reply #25 on: June 12, 2018, 01:43:04 PM »
Attaching 1P! I unfortunately don't have a witty name suggestion  :(

M 46
H 40
No Kids
Married 5yrs, Together 11yrs
BD Oct 31/17
ILYBINILWY Dec 21/17
2nd BD- Dec 27/17
OW-Confirmed Jan 3/18

 Isaiah 43:1 " But the Lord says.. Fear not, for I have redeemed you; I have summoned you by name; you are mine. "

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Re: Baby steps, Hindsight, Forethought, Healing and Rebirth
« Reply #26 on: June 14, 2018, 03:12:39 AM »
What shall we call someone who runs, runs, runs, hides, hides, hides, wants to go home and runs away all over again and will not talk things over/out with his wife?

Forrest or Gump  ;)
Or maybe Arnold (the running man)
Married - 19,5 Years pre BD
Together - 21,5 Years
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W: 46 (Acts 25)
BD 1: 10.01.2017
BD 2: 24.02.2017 OM 28 (now 31) Trainings partner. W is actually getting People to accept/Tolerate them.
2 Sons - 19 & 21
1 Dogs and a cat.
Own home . Sold!
Divorce Date 21.08.2018
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Re: Baby steps, Hindsight, Forethought, Healing and Rebirth
« Reply #27 on: June 14, 2018, 05:25:19 AM »
How about HAGS, Hide-Go-And-Seek.  Describes your H’s behaviour rather well.

Besides, MLCers usually do NOT look great, hence, ‘Hags’...

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Re: Baby steps, Hindsight, Forethought, Healing and Rebirth
« Reply #28 on: June 22, 2018, 02:27:53 PM »
Oh my. Thanks for all of the great suggestions!  Lately it has been f@#knut$.  However, I think AhhNold will be perfect! 

Well we are ever so slowly progressing.  I came to realize the other day, I have not even seen him 12 times in the last year.  Wtf is wrong with me?  I am still wearing my ring to work and turning down dates left and right.   Ugh.  Pounding myself in the head....stupid stupid stupid.

There is no going back.  There is nothing to go back to. Only today and tomorrow.  Live with no regrets.

Now the big question....do I buy a new bed? (Tee hee)

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Re: Baby steps, Hindsight, Forethought, Healing and Rebirth
« Reply #29 on: June 22, 2018, 02:34:08 PM »
Yes DO buy a new bed....so symbolic in all sorts of ways.

You sound great 1P and you must be doing a whole lot of things right because you are turning into a red hot magnet (I admit to being a little bit envious here......no one has shown the slightest bit of interest in me except some creepy, over-friendly middle-aged man at the gym and D16's boyfriend's Dad who split with his wife recently).

Hugs my friend.
Me: 50
H: 40
S19, D15
Together for 19 years
BDay in 2004, 2011 and now March 5 2017
Ran away on 5 March BD
No OW
Returned home 'underdone' 1 July 2017.
Left again 22 October 2017.
H - Silent and non-communicative

 

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