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Offline Acorn

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My Story Re: The hills and valleys
« Reply #60 on: June 13, 2018, 05:40:53 PM »
You can’t make this stuff up.  Broke the car window.  What next?!
You handled yourself admirably.  Him?  Not so much.  It sounds like he was flustered and embarrassed.  No wonder he broke the window.  O well, I hope he got an earful from what-da-ya-call-her. 

Don’t forget I reserved my seat on the combine.  It’s on my bucket list.  DF, you can have a go at it first because you asked first.
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Re: The hills and valleys
« Reply #61 on: June 13, 2018, 07:26:10 PM »
I'm sorry. We all know the narrative to Mrs. No 6 will be: "SB broke the window. I told her not to help, but she just threw the poles in anyway."

Amiwrong?

OR - I did think that maybe he'd try to spin that but whatever.   I've never spoken to her in 2.5 years and I could care less what she or her daughter think of me.  MLCer and I both know the truth and pretty much anybody else in this town he'd try to sell that story to would not fall for it. 

Shocked - I went out there to "help" him because if it in any way makes him anxious or feeling a tad guilty I have accomplished my mission.  He has avoided me as much as he possibly can.  Every time he plans on being here I will be out there.  I may not always be helping because I have 15 cords of wood to stack and many other things that need to be done around here this summer.  But rest assured, I'll be out there so that even though he erased me and his previous life he'll have to see me every time he returns to the home we shared. 

Nah - I wish I'd thought of saying that.  But even if I had said it, I'm betting he'd have looked at me like I was crazy.  There is no indication whatsoever that he ever had any kind of relationship with me.  I would be shocked if he ever looked at me and said, "You must hate me...."   After every thing is removed and gone I'm guessing he won't ever contact me again and I sure won't be contacting him.  I don't even know who he is. 

Thunder - everything will be staying in the house until the all the crap out back is gone.  He didn't even ask about inside stuff. 

KIT - It would be poetic justice if his truck took more hits getting everything out of here.

As for the new wifey - I don't think she minds one bit that he'll have to spend time here.  Remember, she has convinced at least 5 different men to get a marriage license so her self esteem is pretty up there.  She's eight years younger than me and I bet she won't be at all bothered by little old me.  What will bother her is the time he has to spend here wrapping up his old life because he isn't available to do her every bidding. 

UM -  :D

Acorn - he did mention the combine.  Wants to leave it in the building under cover until right before he starts the dismantling.  When it leaves I'll video it on my phone and send it to a few members here that have my cell number.  It will no doubt be epic because it can't fit down the driveway because of the gate installation last August. 



After all, tomorrow is another day.
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Offline FaithWalker

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Re: The hills and valleys
« Reply #62 on: June 14, 2018, 11:22:08 AM »


I wonder what happened that he had just gotten it replaced?  Seems like all is not well in MLC world.  I love that you had a front row seat to the action.



Definitely sounds like MLCer was a bit anxious around you.   ;D

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Offline Kanvan

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Re: The hills and valleys
« Reply #63 on: June 18, 2018, 08:09:26 AM »
SB, you were rocking it like the queen you are. The broken window glass would have been hard for me not to get tickled. You stated that he is not the man you use to know, that is so true for many of us. Sad thing is they do not see it at all. According to them we are the ones that changed. You are doing great girl! Sending hugs your way!
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Re: The hills and valleys
« Reply #64 on: June 18, 2018, 04:14:30 PM »
SB....I have missed so much in the last 4 months I've been AWOL.  Didn't read it all, but guess the barn is coming down and windows are being busted.  Good times.  lol

Glad to see that you are keeping yourself otherwise occupied.  Always the best course of action!

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Re: The hills and valleys
« Reply #65 on: June 19, 2018, 11:56:47 AM »
Hey, I got dibs on driving the combine down the driveway!!   
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Re: The hills and valleys
« Reply #66 on: June 19, 2018, 12:12:48 PM »
DF - the combine can't go down the driveway because I put a gate up last August.  It won't fit!  You'll have to run around in the neighbor's field with it.  MLCer says he's going to take it from the property by going out through the neighbor's field. 

Wouldn't it be a hoot and a half if the neighbor said no exiting through my field but the bada$$ Jersey chick can drive it around out there if she wants to!!    ;D
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Re: The hills and valleys
« Reply #67 on: June 19, 2018, 12:37:10 PM »
Lol. That would be a hoot
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Re: The hills and valleys
« Reply #68 on: June 19, 2018, 01:02:03 PM »
I better get you my cell phone number.
I don't want to miss a THING!!   8)
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Re: The hills and valleys
« Reply #69 on: June 19, 2018, 01:18:52 PM »
Wouldn't it be a hoot and a half if the neighbor said no exiting through my field but the bada$$ Jersey chick can drive it around out there if she wants to!!    ;D

I dare you to bribe the neighbor.  Promise him/her to pay, say $100 if he/she refuses H drive through their field. 
Feb 2015: H has a Nuclear meltdown.  A tear-fest.  The next morning arctic cold descends.
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Apr 2016: Affair discovered
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