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My Story Re: No I don't Want Any Guinea Pigs
« Reply #80 on: July 13, 2018, 11:13:35 AM »
Acorn - Thank you for the reminder that this is really not about me. I know that on some level but I forget when things like this happen and it feels like a personal attack. It really says more about where he is mentally than about me I guess. For whatever reason, my presence bothers him.   

Tyks - Oh I am totally planning on buying a new bada$$ outfit for the event.  8)

KIT- You think one day LB will admit that he messed up? I highly doubt it.  He is lost to the dark side.

Well, the Myrtle Beach trip is going to be the death of me. I told LB that I was packing the stuff S needed in whatever luggage it would all fit in and the suitcase would be on the front step Saturday morning for him to deal with. LB's new plan is for S's sneakers to travel to Myrtle Beach with xFIL tonight. LB thinks he is all smart for solving the problem. What he doesn't understand is that he is willing spend $200 to find a firetruck buddy online (I have the receipt) or $85 to send MOW2 flowers at work but he won't spend an extra $20 for his son to have a regular size suitcase so he can get his basketball sneakers to his national tournament.  These are his priorities now. But I keep my mouth shut because I tried for a year to point this out to him and the "fog" was way too think.

I told S that I can pack anything in my suitcase that he needs and bring it down Wednesday when I come down.  D and I will have big suitcases for the way home so no problem getting it all back home.

But first Taylor Swift with D on Saturday night in Philly!! So excited. I won't have to worry about S because he will be at the dysfunction junction summer retreat and it will be a girls nights out!!!     

 
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Re: No I don't Want Any Guinea Pigs
« Reply #81 on: July 13, 2018, 06:41:20 PM »

But first Taylor Swift with D on Saturday night in Philly!! So excited. I won't have to worry about S because he will be at the dysfunction junction summer retreat and it will be a girls nights out!!!   


How fun! 
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Re: No I don't Want Any Guinea Pigs
« Reply #82 on: July 14, 2018, 03:04:30 AM »
While I was packing S last night, I realized I can’t send him with any liquids - no sun screen, his aresol deodorant, etc. I was so annoyed. Trying to pack at least 7 days worth of stuff in this tiny suitcase and then no toiletries on top of it for a 12 day trip. It is just inhumane. So in a fit of utter disgust I may not have followed all of the TSA rules and wished for them to get stuck in security.  :-\ I may have also declared that LB was an a$$h@!e in front of S. I felt bad about it immediately and S looked sad that I had said it ... but honestly. 

S tells me that XMIL refused to take them to the airport so they were scrambling for a ride last minute.  ??? XBIL just came and picked them up. LB looked quite miserable. Just wait till he hits airport security. He will be cursing my name to the heavens. Snort.

D and I head down Wednesday. Back to bed for me. Gotta rest up for the concert tonight.  8)

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BD March, 2016
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D final March 14, 2018 - still living at parent's house

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Re: No I don't Want Any Guinea Pigs
« Reply #83 on: July 14, 2018, 04:40:51 AM »
Oh DF, your posts always make me laugh! I love how you find humor in the toughest situations.

Have a wonderful time tonight with your D!  And all the best to your s on his tournament.   
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Re: No I don't Want Any Guinea Pigs
« Reply #84 on: July 14, 2018, 05:15:01 AM »
May he live long and prosper at the security line.  Hope your S has an enthralling game to play on his phone while he waits.  You are such a bada**, DF!  Funny to boot.
Enjoy the concert with D.
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Re: No I don't Want Any Guinea Pigs
« Reply #85 on: July 14, 2018, 06:21:39 AM »
Yep. Stuck in security. It wasn’t even my doing. Apparently the 2lb bag of lifesavers S just HAD to have for the trip to share with everyone he wrapped up in a small blanket and put in his book bag. 😂 We argued about it for 2 days - too big, too expensive. You don’t need 2lbs of lifesavers!! Please Mom!! I finally stopped and got him the 2lb bag last night and told him if it didn’t fit he could take a ziplock full of lifesavers. His book bag weighed 25 lbs but he got the whole bag in. ::)

Totally worth the $7 now.
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Re: No I don't Want Any Guinea Pigs
« Reply #86 on: July 15, 2018, 04:56:05 PM »
Oh goodness DF.  Have fun at the Taylor Swift concert with D.  Funny about the security issue!  Sounds like vacation will be a bit of no fun dealing with the LB gang.  But you are a bada** and somehow I know you'll make it through!
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Re: No I don't Want Any Guinea Pigs
« Reply #87 on: July 16, 2018, 06:35:56 AM »
You know, DF, when I was reading about those lifesavers, I automaticlly thought your H was trying to pack them in his bag. ;D. Now, why do I think that?!  I guess it’s somthing MLCers would do because of their affinity with teenagers and even younger kids.  Candies go with their MLC attire, shoes, language, groopie activities, etc.  I bet your H packed some stuff that would rival lifesavers.  It would be an interesting question to ask your S after the trip.  Just sayin....
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Re: No I don't Want Any Guinea Pigs
« Reply #88 on: July 16, 2018, 07:49:27 AM »
I'm baaaaaaackk!

And I found a perfect GIFt for you....

Guinea pig with a lifesaver!

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Re: No I don't Want Any Guinea Pigs
« Reply #89 on: July 16, 2018, 02:10:39 PM »
Needless to say that when I logged in today I did not expect to see a Guinea Pig eating a lifesaver on my thread. But there he is. I am just dying!!! UM you are the best!!

I haven't heard much from S and LB since Saturday. S is not much of a texter. I keep track of S with his phone.  They seemed to have spent the entire weekend at MILs house only venturing out for breakfast and to horse around on the golf course behind MILs house. But this morning when I checked in, S was in a helicopter. :o  Well, ok then.
He did text me afterward to tell me about it.  :)

Meanwhile D and I are having the most fun girls weekend ever. Taylor Swift was amazing. The weather was picture perfect. The show was great.  I didn't have to worry about S at home alone. So much fun!!! We have done some shopping and gone to lunch. Eating takeout on the couch last night watching Harry Potter and working on the laundry for our trip.

At lunch yesterday, D told me that she and S bailed out on nephew's birthday dinner last Monday. I was horrified. I, of course, knew nothing about it.  But they conspired together to tell xMIL we were busy. I was so horrified. I told D that was not very nice to bail out on nephew's birthday. Then I got an ear full from D - she would like my permission to "write that side of the family off". Essentially, D says the company is bad, the food is bad, they don't take care of themselves, they don't come to her birthday, they are all overweight and she is tired of playing the holiday game with them.  Ohhhhhh.... well, you don't need my permission. It is your life - color the pages whatever colors you want. 

Basketball registration started at 5:00 so I am currently being flooded with 100 group text messages from the team. Seems they are all lost or confused. There has been a suggestions that they go to Family Kingdom after registration. LB texts "where inside".... does that mean "we are inside" or "where inside?".  So sorry I am missing all the chaos..... not.               
   
Married 1998
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LBS W 47
D16, S12
BD March, 2016
Left home Sept 4, 2016 - living with parents
H filed for D - July 24, 2017
D final March 14, 2018 - still living at parent's house

“You've seen my descent, now watch my rising.”
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