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Offline LearningIamOk

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My Story Re: A long story of finding myself all over again.
« Reply #100 on: May 15, 2019, 02:19:22 PM »
What goes around, comes around. Sorry Ready. ;D
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Re: A long story of finding myself all over again.
« Reply #101 on: May 16, 2019, 02:08:40 AM »

To be honest, this is an absolute truth. So my question to the LBSer crowd,
Is it right for a LBSer to receive a truth dart?


No, absolutely not! Leave her! You can always say that you left bc she didn't love you and her attitude for plastic bag case showed it and that you were never happy and that you need space and find out who you really are!

Glad to hear about your daughter, so important to kids to hear you are proud of them (for whatever reason). I love the look in my kids' faces when telling them I'm proud of them, it's just something that they need.



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Re: A long story of finding myself all over again.
« Reply #102 on: May 16, 2019, 02:25:27 AM »
Ha ha....maybe your wife is just more skilled with the truth darts, Ready  :)

Actually on a more serious note...what a lovely bit of normal that is. No eggshells, no big drama, no games...just a normal loving bit of practical marital irritation. Lovely.
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Re: A long story of finding myself all over again.
« Reply #103 on: May 16, 2019, 02:58:56 AM »
Ha ha....maybe your wife is just more skilled with the truth darts, Ready  :)

Actually on a more serious note...what a lovely bit of normal that is. No eggshells, no big drama, no games...just a normal loving bit of practical marital irritation. Lovely.

I agree with you Treasur, but just why it's ALWAYS 'she', not 'he', who chastise?
"I've seen dreams that move the mountains, hope that doesn't ever end even when the sky is falling. I've seen miracles just happen, silent prayers get answered, broken hearts become brand new. That's what faith can do." Kutless

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Re: A long story of finding myself all over again.
« Reply #104 on: May 16, 2019, 03:24:22 AM »
You are no longer in an MLC/LBS situation there buddy.... This is the concept known as Mutually Assured Destruction.... One good dart gets another.... Guess you'll need to get a thicker skin, especially when she was right.....
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Re: A long story of finding myself all over again.
« Reply #105 on: May 16, 2019, 05:49:06 AM »
You are no longer in an MLC/LBS situation there buddy.... This is the concept known as Mutually Assured Destruction.... One good dart gets another.... Guess you'll need to get a thicker skin, especially when she was right.....

Famous MAD -concept?  ;D
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Re: A long story of finding myself all over again.
« Reply #106 on: May 16, 2019, 10:16:14 AM »
I'll take a truth dart over a lie any day.

Normal domestic life - I miss it!

Glad you're doing so well, Ready. Your W sounds great. You deserve some domestic bliss. Now go clean up after yourself already.
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