Author Topic: Mirror-Work Putting a Challenge Out there for All  (Read 3753 times)

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Mirror-Work Putting a Challenge Out there for All
« on: July 05, 2018, 10:35:06 AM »
Hello All!

I have challenged myself to do something special for myself everyday.  Take time to focus on me.  This can be anything...does not have to be big and expensive, I have committed to spending at least 30 minutes a day for me.

I am asking all of you to join along with me and share the things you are doing for yourself.

I'll get it started.

1.  I spend at least 30 minutes a day exercising.  Mostly walking but occasionally running.  I want to do a 5 k before the end of the year.  Great way to help clear my brain and listen to some good music or recorded messages.
2.  I go to bed 30 minutes early every night now and spend that time reading.  I found that I am now falling asleep easier and sleeping better and waking up more refreshed compared to falling asleep with the TV on.
3.  Twice a month I get my nails done.
4. Once every month or two I go for a massage.
5.  I try to pick a place I want to eat out at and go there once a month.

So....what are you doing to make sure there is time set aside each day for yourself?  Let's hear it!
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Re: Putting a Challenge Out there for All
« Reply #1 on: July 05, 2018, 11:24:35 AM »
I love it!  In the beginning I was very good about doing this and I found it to be transformative!   But I've become a bit complacent about it now because I'm doing so much better.  Thanks for the reminder!  One thing I like to do in addition, is get my hair blown out.  Makes me look so much better and I feel confident.  Not sure what I will do today, but maybe I'll go get a pedicure.
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Re: Putting a Challenge Out there for All
« Reply #2 on: July 05, 2018, 11:40:11 AM »
I do some positive things for my physical and emotional health, and for personal development.

I try to power-walk 5miles every day to maintain health.   If I have time, I walk another 5 miles on a nature trail for therapeutic purposes.

I challenge myself everyday to babble less and listen more.  I continually remind myself to respond, not react, to everyone and every situation.  A lot of work to do in both departments.  ;D

I’m work in progress, not a finished product, till my last day on earth.  That’s a pep talk I give myself everyday FWIW. 

I’m still to learn to hate potato crisps...  I don’t have a lot of hope there will be much progress on this ‘issue’.
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Re: Putting a Challenge Out there for All
« Reply #3 on: July 05, 2018, 01:41:14 PM »
Good thread!

I've also been getting into books before bed. Sometimes I listen to podcasts. And I'm going to exercise classes. I cook tasty meals when I feel like it. Today's self-care breakfast was a fried egg, hash browns, and a bratwurst. :D And, of course, fresh morning coffee. That is a must have!

I’m still to learn to hate potato crisps...  I don’t have a lot of hope there will be much progress on this ‘issue’.

Arg! You just reminded me that I happen to have some in the cupboard...
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Re: Putting a Challenge Out there for All
« Reply #4 on: July 05, 2018, 01:58:39 PM »
I get my nails done twice a month also!! I've been enjoying a bubble bath in the evening for some time to myself. I meet up with friends occasionally for drinks and dinner (without my H). I am working to get an exercise routine going.
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Re: Putting a Challenge Out there for All
« Reply #5 on: July 05, 2018, 02:37:55 PM »
Not as bad as my MLC W then, who now manages to get her nails done almost every week 🙂.   

The football season starts again here in the UK next month, and my plan is to go and see my team at least once a month, at weekends.  Always been a fan, but have never gone to the matches regularly.  Always wanted to, but then got married, had kids, put them first, etc, etc.  When it’s not my weekend to have the kids, that’s my plan.  I’m also determined to take up something new as well, just not found something that really appeals to me yet. 
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Re: Putting a Challenge Out there for All
« Reply #6 on: July 05, 2018, 02:39:22 PM »
That's a great idea Moon! 
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Re: Putting a Challenge Out there for All
« Reply #7 on: July 05, 2018, 02:45:49 PM »
Thanks Family.  Long before I met W I always wanted to do it, but never had the nerve to just go on my own.  I want to now.  And when they’re both a bit older, I want to occasionally take both my girls as well.  A bit of of a daddy / daughter thing - just the three of us.  What about you?  Do you have anything special lined up, just for you?
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Re: Putting a Challenge Out there for All
« Reply #8 on: July 06, 2018, 01:06:26 AM »
The allotment is a lifesaver for me. My day is always better if I spend an hour there.
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Re: Putting a Challenge Out there for All
« Reply #9 on: July 06, 2018, 06:44:42 AM »
I try to exercise 30 every day. Sometimes it doesn’t always happen, but I try.

Every month I get a pedicure. And when there is a movie in the theaters I want to see, I go see it.

Usually I take Sundays to read if I have a book.
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