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#20: July 07, 2018, 03:24:56 PM
Today i went for a 2 mile walk
Washed the truck.
Swept the pool.
Talked with a friend for several hours.
Rode the scooter to the local restaurant.
Slept in and cuddled with the dogs.

I am spoiling myself and i no linget feel bad for doing it. I work hard. I deserve it. Most of it is just time and costs nothing.
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10.29.17 BD-Moved out to OW/A began in  6.17
3.5.18 OW moved away/H moved in with F
3.19.18  H moved home into spare room 
7.14.18  Moved to be with OW (another state)
9.4.18  Moved back-Living with Parents 
11.1.18  OW moved back.  H living w/her in D's basement room. 
11.18 - H started visiting on holidays
11.26.19 Call from H.  BIL died suddenly.
1.19 - H announced to my inner circle that he moved to sisters  inc all belongings
2.19  H volunteers to house and dog sit whenever.
Spring 19  H visiting house and doing chores on a regular basis

4.83 Started Dating
8.10.85  Married

D -29 Married with 2 children  Lives Local
S - 27 Engaged in Prof School across country
3 Dogs (he left them all behind - taking care of them but not really visiting or interacting with them yet)

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Re: Putting a Challenge Out there for All
#21: July 09, 2018, 10:35:57 AM
So what is everyone doing for themselves today.

Yesterday I went for breakfast with D, SIL and GS.  Soaked up some sun and swam in the pool  Also did some cleaning of the house so it looked nice and helps me feel calm.

Today I went for an hour long walk.  Really needed it after last night.

Going somewhere special and new for supper tonight!
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10.29.17 BD-Moved out to OW/A began in  6.17
3.5.18 OW moved away/H moved in with F
3.19.18  H moved home into spare room 
7.14.18  Moved to be with OW (another state)
9.4.18  Moved back-Living with Parents 
11.1.18  OW moved back.  H living w/her in D's basement room. 
11.18 - H started visiting on holidays
11.26.19 Call from H.  BIL died suddenly.
1.19 - H announced to my inner circle that he moved to sisters  inc all belongings
2.19  H volunteers to house and dog sit whenever.
Spring 19  H visiting house and doing chores on a regular basis

4.83 Started Dating
8.10.85  Married

D -29 Married with 2 children  Lives Local
S - 27 Engaged in Prof School across country
3 Dogs (he left them all behind - taking care of them but not really visiting or interacting with them yet)

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Re: Putting a Challenge Out there for All
#22: July 09, 2018, 10:53:10 AM
Here is what I have added to my life

- Teaching at the YMCA two days a week
- Expanding the group friends that I go out with
- Never saying no to something that I would normally say no to.  Amazings things can happen!
- Got a new car
- Workout more
- Smile and say hello to people.
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Re: Putting a Challenge Out there for All
#23: July 09, 2018, 11:02:08 AM
Today I will...

Walk my 10 month old puppy-( who has been a godsend through all this mess)

Cook my son’s favorite meal because he’s visiting.

Go to the gym with my daughter
 
Go to my beginner Spanish class (Started this 6 months ago because I signed up for a volunteer group to teach English for 2 weeks in Cuba in the fall)

Finish a project at work that I take great pride in.
 
Get ready for a week at the beach with my sisters and parents (Don’t know if H is coming or not and don’t really care)

I will laugh and I will be thankful for all the really great things I have. 

Husband 53
Me 53
Kids 3 sons 27,25.22 1 daughter 18
BD #1 Spring 2016
BD #2 Winter 2017
married 30 years.  Together 32
H never moved out except 3 weeks after BD #1
OW 30 year single mom employee-He says EA only I don’t believe him.
He is working on things and far from being cooked.
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Kids 3 sons 28, 26, 23 1 daughter 19
BD #1 Spring 2016
BD #2 Winter 2017
married 32 years.  Together 34
H never moved out except 3 weeks after BD #1
OW 30 year single mom employee-He says EA only I don’t believe him.
He is working on things and far from being cooked.

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Re: Putting a Challenge Out there for All
#24: July 10, 2018, 04:33:42 PM
So what did you do for yoyrself today?

I cleaned out the old shed and took junk to landfill. I made h help. Haha

I walked 4.4 mile

I went for a swim

Right now i am relaxing on the patio watching a storm blow over.
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10.29.17 BD-Moved out to OW/A began in  6.17
3.5.18 OW moved away/H moved in with F
3.19.18  H moved home into spare room 
7.14.18  Moved to be with OW (another state)
9.4.18  Moved back-Living with Parents 
11.1.18  OW moved back.  H living w/her in D's basement room. 
11.18 - H started visiting on holidays
11.26.19 Call from H.  BIL died suddenly.
1.19 - H announced to my inner circle that he moved to sisters  inc all belongings
2.19  H volunteers to house and dog sit whenever.
Spring 19  H visiting house and doing chores on a regular basis

4.83 Started Dating
8.10.85  Married

D -29 Married with 2 children  Lives Local
S - 27 Engaged in Prof School across country
3 Dogs (he left them all behind - taking care of them but not really visiting or interacting with them yet)

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Re: Putting a Challenge Out there for All
#25: July 10, 2018, 10:16:53 PM
Yesterday went swimming with the kids. I'm liking that a lot!
Let D do the veggie shopping
Threw away more quality belongings.
Ate Round Table puzza. I haven't had that in six months
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Re: Putting a Challenge Out there for All
#26: July 11, 2018, 01:52:48 AM
Off.  Very nice
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10.29.17 BD-Moved out to OW/A began in  6.17
3.5.18 OW moved away/H moved in with F
3.19.18  H moved home into spare room 
7.14.18  Moved to be with OW (another state)
9.4.18  Moved back-Living with Parents 
11.1.18  OW moved back.  H living w/her in D's basement room. 
11.18 - H started visiting on holidays
11.26.19 Call from H.  BIL died suddenly.
1.19 - H announced to my inner circle that he moved to sisters  inc all belongings
2.19  H volunteers to house and dog sit whenever.
Spring 19  H visiting house and doing chores on a regular basis

4.83 Started Dating
8.10.85  Married

D -29 Married with 2 children  Lives Local
S - 27 Engaged in Prof School across country
3 Dogs (he left them all behind - taking care of them but not really visiting or interacting with them yet)

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Re: Putting a Challenge Out there for All
#27: July 11, 2018, 03:43:06 AM
For those of you who are interested, Deepak and Oprah are doing another free online 21 Day meditation challenge on 23 July.  The meditations can be sent to your phone and last around 20 mins.  I try and meditate daily but really suck at it actually so these challenges (which come along quite frequently) help set that habit for me.

Apart from that, I have also been seeing an energy healer every 6-8 weeks.  I think it helps but it even if it doesn't help energetically, it helps emotionally.
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Re: Putting a Challenge Out there for All
#28: July 11, 2018, 07:30:11 AM
I'm headed out for wind therapy today on my Harley.  Hoping to put a few hundred miles on.   :)
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Re: Putting a Challenge Out there for All
#29: July 11, 2018, 12:12:10 PM
After a firm prod on self-care and being shown this, I'm going to start using it as my plan to make new habits to replace some old ones http://www.kellevision.com/kellevision/2009/11/satirs-mandala-of-the-self-and-good-self-care.html
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