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Mirror-Work Re: Putting a Challenge Out there for All
« Reply #70 on: October 09, 2018, 08:20:14 AM »
My update:

Trampoline Aerobics again today
Getting closer to getting my motorcycle license - the Approval to take the written test has been delivered to the Driving School...
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Together 19 years - Married 17 at separation
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Atomic BD - 13 Dec 2015
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Re: Putting a Challenge Out there for All
« Reply #71 on: October 09, 2018, 08:23:34 AM »
UM - Congrats...I love riding my scooter.  Not brave enough yet to take on the heavy mc...but the scooter is great!  I drove it to work today because I could.
10.29.17 BD-Moved out to OW/A began in  6.17
3.5.18 OW moved away/H moved in with F
3.19.18  H moved home into spare room 
7.14.18  Moved to be with OW (another state)
9.4.18  Moved back-Living with Parents 
11.1.18  OW moved back.  H living w/her in D's basement room. 
11.18 - H started visiting on holidays
11.26.19 Call from H.  BIL died suddenly.
1.19 - H announced to my inner circle that he moved to sisters  inc all belongings
2.19  H volunteers to house and dog sit whenever.
Spring 19  H visiting house and doing chores on a regular basis

4.83 Started Dating
8.10.85  Married

D -29 Married with 2 children  Lives Local
S - 27 Engaged in Prof School across country
3 Dogs (he left them all behind - taking care of them but not really visiting or interacting with them yet)

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Re: Putting a Challenge Out there for All
« Reply #72 on: January 21, 2019, 02:04:25 PM »
I’m taking up blacksmithing, casting metals in sand mounds,learning to play the Saxaphone and studying the personality disorders.im also buying and selling interesting stuff on eBay.  Teal art is another hobby I am trying.

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Re: Putting a Challenge Out there for All
« Reply #73 on: January 21, 2019, 02:06:21 PM »
Correction it should have read as metal art and not teal art.

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Re: Putting a Challenge Out there for All
« Reply #74 on: January 22, 2019, 04:20:45 AM »
Joined the Y and bought my swim cap and goggles so I can starting swimming for exercise.

I also started an online doctoral program.
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Re: Putting a Challenge Out there for All
« Reply #75 on: January 22, 2019, 05:32:08 AM »
My update:

Trampoline Aerobics again today
Getting closer to getting my motorcycle license - the Approval to take the written test has been delivered to the Driving School...

Challenge 2 completed - I got my Motorcycle license in Nov 2018.....

Other firsts : Took myself and my kids skiing for the first time (first time ever for them and first time in Europe for me) in January
Me - 56
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Together 19 years - Married 17 at separation
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D - 8
2 Dogs (1 each)
BD#1 - August 2015
Atomic BD - 13 Dec 2015
House sold & separated - Mar 2016
Divorce final 30 August 2019

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Re: Putting a Challenge Out there for All
« Reply #76 on: January 22, 2019, 06:58:27 AM »
It is too cold to walk so I am working with D to get some online exercise programs for her so I can keep me healthy.

Taco Tuesday for me died...the place I was going was getting too bad with smokers so I am not choosing to avoid it and going for Wings on Thursdays.  Usually meet up with a friend...occasionally I go alone.  I don't mind.  I am getting to know new people at the bar so I always have someone to converse with.

Spending time with family!  Hosting a family dinner every other month so my parents have time with the kids and grandkids and great grandkids.  It is the best present my sister and I ever did for them.

Spend at least 30 mins a day reading something to help me in some way.  Sometimes it is just a fiction novel just because I need that escape from reality.

Re-decorating my home.  Started with my bedroom.  Repainted.  New dressers/bureaus, closet organizers, bedding....making it my "spa" bedroom in my own home.  Loving it.  Except for the light covered comforter....My dogs footprints keep showing up on the cream background.  Just means washing it more often.  Ha Ha.

Other than that....keeping busy at work. We have a lot of changes on the horizon that should lead to more growth.  Growth is good!

I try to get to the movies once a month.  Sometimes it happens...sometimes it doesn't.  This is a low priority for me.

Planning a trip to see son in the Spring!

Basically, I am living my life the way I choose.  Sometimes I feel like hanging at home and doing nothing...other times I have a gas ass and I just go and do what I want to do!  Freedom of choice is what I have! 
10.29.17 BD-Moved out to OW/A began in  6.17
3.5.18 OW moved away/H moved in with F
3.19.18  H moved home into spare room 
7.14.18  Moved to be with OW (another state)
9.4.18  Moved back-Living with Parents 
11.1.18  OW moved back.  H living w/her in D's basement room. 
11.18 - H started visiting on holidays
11.26.19 Call from H.  BIL died suddenly.
1.19 - H announced to my inner circle that he moved to sisters  inc all belongings
2.19  H volunteers to house and dog sit whenever.
Spring 19  H visiting house and doing chores on a regular basis

4.83 Started Dating
8.10.85  Married

D -29 Married with 2 children  Lives Local
S - 27 Engaged in Prof School across country
3 Dogs (he left them all behind - taking care of them but not really visiting or interacting with them yet)

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Re: Putting a Challenge Out there for All
« Reply #77 on: January 22, 2019, 02:19:37 PM »
Sam, I'm just catching up with your thread and loving your attitude! It's been so enlightening and refreshing to read your thread with yours and everyone's suggestions for things to do for yourselves every day.  I'm way behind but you make it sound easy. I will need to start tomorrow!
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Re: Putting a Challenge Out there for All
« Reply #78 on: January 22, 2019, 05:31:02 PM »
I haven't had much time for me lately with working two jobs, but I do try to pamper myself with a long bath a couple times a week.  This week I'm not working the second job and only working for 3 hours at the first job on Friday, then headed out of town for a girls weekend with my SIL, her sister, and possibly another gal.
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BD 12/14/15 - 2 weeks after 14th anniv.
Divorce final 4/13/16
EA - 9/15-4/16
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Engaged 6/17 (I found out 8/10/17)
Moved to her State 4 States away - 7/13/17
Eng. off 8/20/17
Moved back to our State 8/24/17
Has several dating profiles on POF and another but no major signs of anything new.

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