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Mirror-Work Re: Putting a Challenge Out there for All
#60: July 31, 2018, 02:02:27 AM
Today our regular fitness classes start up again! YIPPEE!  Trampoline Aerobics at 12:00
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Re: Putting a Challenge Out there for All
#61: July 31, 2018, 05:29:23 AM
trampoline aerobics sounds like both a blast and a potential injury!  Enjoy UM
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Re: Putting a Challenge Out there for All
#62: July 31, 2018, 05:57:26 AM
trampoline aerobics sounds like both a blast and a potential injury!  Enjoy UM

55 minutes, 900 calories burned.... And it is easier on the joints since it is low/no impact... there were 6 of us plus the instructor and, as usual, I was the only guy in the class...
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Re: Putting a Challenge Out there for All
#63: August 01, 2018, 08:50:07 AM
Did you enjoy all the bouncing UM?????


So...things I continue to do....

Exercise.  So important to me.  Always feel so much better after doing it even though I have to get out of bed an hour earlier than normal.

Took GS out for wings last night.  He was such a good boy.

Tonight I have junk guy coming to pick up stuff I want to get rid of....love to de clutter!  Also one of those things that requires some work but makes me happier after it is done.

Supper tonight....steaks and fresh veggies.  I love steak but my waistline does not so it is a special treat every now and then.   :-*
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3.5.18 OW moved away/H moved in with F
3.19.18  H moved home into spare room 
7.14.18  Moved to be with OW (another state)
9.4.18  Moved back-Living with Parents 
11.1.18  OW moved back.  H living w/her in D's basement room. 
11.18 - H started visiting on holidays
11.26.19 Call from H.  BIL died suddenly.
1.19 - H announced to my inner circle that he moved to sisters  inc all belongings
2.19  H volunteers to house and dog sit whenever.
Spring 19  H visiting house and doing chores on a regular basis

4.83 Started Dating
8.10.85  Married

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S - 27 Engaged in Prof School across country
3 Dogs (he left them all behind - taking care of them but not really visiting or interacting with them yet)

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Re: Putting a Challenge Out there for All
#64: August 01, 2018, 10:03:10 AM
Sam, I am still working on finding a consistent routine to work out!!

Last week was a rough week with ER visits with FIL, but I have gotten back to my Headspace routine these past few days.

Had dinner with a great friend before going to our last small group meeting for a study we have been doing at church.

Have been enjoying S19...he just "dropped and EP" of music he has been working on for himself this summer...his own therapy...proud momma!
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Re: Putting a Challenge Out there for All
#65: September 08, 2018, 05:43:11 PM
Got to catch up on some HS threads today.  It's been a while.

Tomorrow afternoon I'm going to the movies with my SIL.
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Re: Putting a Challenge Out there for All
#66: October 06, 2018, 09:25:12 AM
Finish cleaning basement and garage.
This has been a long-term goal and I’m so close.
I will feell awesome when it’s done!!!
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Re: Putting a Challenge Out there for All
#67: October 06, 2018, 12:32:02 PM
I've been cooking for others. I've always enjoyed planning and cooking for groups of people. Now, with my children gone, there are no soccer pasta parties, graduation parties and marching bands to feed. I also used to work at a school where I often brought lunch for my tram - especially after having tried a new recipe.

These past two weeks I have gotten back to that activity. I have been feeding my team since our game times have been pushed back and I did a lunch for my department.
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Re: Putting a Challenge Out there for All
#68: October 07, 2018, 10:56:00 AM
Kudos to everyone. It's nice to see what others choose to do for themselves.

I'm getting a new roof, new paint, fixing the fence, and eventually the yard.
I cleaned out all the old school supplies since the kids no longer need them.
Finally working on recovering the loveseat like I did the couch.
Went for Mexican food and had a lovely conversation about movies, music and relative merits of actors with my waiter.
Getting rid of the clothes I've "made do" with and assembling my style clothes.
Listening to music. I keep forgetting how much I enjoy it.
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Re: Putting a Challenge Out there for All
#69: October 08, 2018, 08:42:13 AM
I agree...awesome seeing what others do and how some of us newbies are growing into  doing things we would not have done before.

I am planning a visit to see another LBS soon.
Learning to winterize summer equipment for the winter.
Purchased a new weed whacker...all my myself.  Didn't rely on anyone else.
Doing some organizing.
Actually fall decorated the house....I am not big on decorating...always figured why do it....put it up and take it down.  Now I am taking the time to do it.  Fall especially because I can keep it up for months...not just weeks.
Just a few weeks ago I designed and built my own deck railing for the pool.  Now I have to figure out the gate.  More of a challenge since it needs to move.  hmmmmmm
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10.29.17 BD-Moved out to OW/A began in  6.17
3.5.18 OW moved away/H moved in with F
3.19.18  H moved home into spare room 
7.14.18  Moved to be with OW (another state)
9.4.18  Moved back-Living with Parents 
11.1.18  OW moved back.  H living w/her in D's basement room. 
11.18 - H started visiting on holidays
11.26.19 Call from H.  BIL died suddenly.
1.19 - H announced to my inner circle that he moved to sisters  inc all belongings
2.19  H volunteers to house and dog sit whenever.
Spring 19  H visiting house and doing chores on a regular basis

4.83 Started Dating
8.10.85  Married

D -29 Married with 2 children  Lives Local
S - 27 Engaged in Prof School across country
3 Dogs (he left them all behind - taking care of them but not really visiting or interacting with them yet)

 

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