[Ready2Transform]

Why Narcissistic Parents Treat Their Children Like Babies

https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/fulfillment-any-age/201810/why-narcissistic-parents-treat-their-children-babies

Good article whether it's shedding light on a foo issue for your spouse, yourself, or your kids and their dynamic with the walkaway parent.

[MyBrainIsBroken]

We’ve all known someone who has fallen in love and we wonder, “What does she see in him?”  Or, “Is he blind?”  The person in love, often craving the drug-like feelings associated with infatuation, may want to avoid any inconvenient personality traits in the loved one that might deflate the feelings of love.  So the awareness of faults and flaws is split off; it often  winds up in (is projected into) friends or family members, who then have to carry all the doubts.  The infatuated person may then avoid or even turn against those people so he or she won’t have to confront the split-off perceptions.

http://www.afterpsychotherapy.com/splitting/

[Milly]

Very interesting article, Brain. Sounds very familiar.

[Songanddance]

https://www.bbc.co.uk/sounds/play/m00013rk

This is from BBC radio 4s series ALL in the mind which focusses on mental health.  This episode also looks at Borderline Personality Disorder now known as  Emotionally Unstable Personality Disorder.

It's interesting but like all 30 min programmes doesn't go into enough depth. Some interesting statistics and facts though as well as personal experiences.

[Keep believing]

Did you all see the movie "Its complicated" ?  quite a comedy about mlc. It is not stated as mlc movie but if any lbs watches it , we all know what it is really about. 

[Treasur]

Good link from the BBC, s&ad
Useful reminder that personality disorders are big and obvious...they infuse someone's life as the guy says, as opposed to the shock feeling of an alien that most of us get with this experience.
Plus a reminder to feel a little compassion for that broken inner child...but from a safe healthy distance lol

[Anjae]

I've seen Its complicated. Laughed a lot with it.

Personalities disorders are not like MLC. MCL is sudden, personalities disorders not so much.

Around here Borderline is still called Borderline (in English, we don't use a Portuguese word for it).

[Songanddance]

Personalities disorders are not like MLC. MCL is sudden, personalities disorders not so much

I agree but there are interesting comments in the clip that might help LBSers understand the FOO issues or at least some of  the OPs.

I was not suggesting that MLCers have personality disorders - just a useful piece of info for this depression jigsaw we all have to deal with.

[Nas]

I haven't read it but I hear the new Bruce Springsteen interview in Esquire is very interesting.  He talks about how if you don't exercise the demons of your childhood, it can really mess you up in adulthood.  He apparently really opens up in the interview and has had at least one breakdown.

[Anjae]

Bruce Springsteen's breakdown/depression is well known. He talked about it in the past as well as in his book.

He tends to give good interviews.

Spanish footballer Iniesta also start talking about his depression: https://verne.elpais.com/verne/2018/11/26/articulo/1543216780_150411.html

It is in Spanish, but Google translator can do wonders.