Author Topic: My Story The Nah years....Let's give them something to talk about.  (Read 5105 times)

Offline Dumbfounded

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« Reply #10 on: October 06, 2018, 07:16:44 PM »
 Coming along Nah.

I am pretty sure I still think about LB everyday. It is not a constant, overwhelming, obsessive thinking anymore. More of a wistful remembering... and, of course, there are  days he flies in and poops all over us and takes off again. He gets more headspace on those days.

I often wonder if I am a constant ghost in LB’s life or if I have been completely erased from the narrative.
Married 1998
MLC H 48
LBS W 47
D16, S12
BD March, 2016
Left home Sept 4, 2016 - living with parents
H filed for D - July 24, 2017
D final March 14, 2018 - still living at parent's house

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Re: The Nah years....Let's give them something to talk about.
« Reply #11 on: October 06, 2018, 07:46:57 PM »

... and, of course, there are  days he flies in and poops all over us and takes off again. He gets more headspace on those days.


Oh DF I soooooo resonate with this....love your description 😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂
Me 47
Him 47
OW 32
Married - 20 years
Together - 28 years
BD - Nov 2014 - reason for affair said I controlled his life, wore flannelette pyjama pants to bed and drove our family car 🤔
Moved in with Young OW and her 2 kids Jan 2015
Total Vanisher
Divorced Sept 2016
S21, S17, S16 (autism), D14

🌹🌹Let's be real...Bren is the only one who can do Bren. I'm the best Bren on the planet. Trying to turn a skank into a Bren? That will surely end in disappointment, if it hasn't already.🌹🌹

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Offline Shelly7435

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Re: The Nah years....Let's give them something to talk about.
« Reply #12 on: October 06, 2018, 07:52:22 PM »
Following along!
M 53
H 48
M 12 years; together 17 years
D18, S28
Summer 2014 - H wanted to runaway
9/14 I was diagnosed with Breast cancer
11/14 Surgery for BC..3 day after my father dies
11/14 BD 2 days after surgery. I have no passion for you.
2/15 moved out
Dated each other all year affection back on..
3/16 moved home
7/16 Diagnosed with Breast cancer again
8/16 No affection again. I knew something was wrong.
9/16 Another surgery for Breast Cancer
9/16 BD 11 days after surgery discovered -EA with much younger W from Work. That is over. I think he has meaningless flings. Work is his mistress
10/16 I filed for D (financial reasons)
10/16 I moved out.
10/16 Now off and on vanisher
5/17 Divorce final

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Re: The Nah years....Let's give them something to talk about.
« Reply #13 on: October 07, 2018, 12:19:19 AM »
I can remember AND accept AND move on.
^^^^^That. Right there. No harm, no foul in remembering.  The memories are ours, no one gets to rewrite them or take them away. I don't know about anyone else, but I have fond memories I don't want to forget, even if my MLCER does.

There is a major difference between obsessing and remembering.
When life gives you lemons, make SALSA!

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Re: The Nah years....Let's give them something to talk about.
« Reply #14 on: October 07, 2018, 03:20:23 AM »
Tagging along.

I totally agree with Nah and Bren  .  I never want to forger my H or m.  Too many happy years.  I have accepted my situation, I love my H, always will, I have no ill feelings towards him I am sad for him...He has said to me he has f...d  up his marriage and his life. 

He will always have a place in my heart...a huge place, my children have the rest.  I would hate to be in his shoes, we all have regrets about parts of our lives, I would like to think we all learned from them, its cslled maturity , but our mlcers look sad, broken and tormented.....all due to regrets I believe.

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Re: The Nah years....Let's give them something to talk about.
« Reply #15 on: October 07, 2018, 06:03:37 AM »
Along for the next installment, Nah.

What's the status on the book?!   :)
After all, tomorrow is another day.
Together 16 years - married 6
BD - 1/1/16 - his 53rd birthday
His divorce final 7/16
Married OW - 7/17
a consistent semi-vanisher in the same small town

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Re: The Nah years....Let's give them something to talk about.
« Reply #16 on: October 07, 2018, 06:20:14 AM »
Along for the next installment, Nah.

What's the status on the book?!   :)

Funny you should ask....

Last week I did my final front to back last time read, and sent to the editor “I’m done”, so she could do the final polish. Up until now, it was separated by chapters in the writing program and she polished up the fonts and put it together as one book. After all these years of me working on it, it was so exciting to see it as a real book (as an e-book for now but still, it was exciting)

But wait a minute...

One of my last changes wasn’t there.  So I checked a typo that I remembered fixing, that wasn’t fixed either. Ugh!!! She polished the wrong version. She admitted that she didn’t see some glitch in the system that didn’t upload my final version.

So now she needs another week to start over with the correct version

I guess for a project that I’ve been working on for 5 years, one week isn’t going to be a big deal. It’s just I’m getting really anxious to see this to the end.
H-54
me-52
ow-30
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BD April 6 2013 day after family went out for sons birthday.
I packed his bags two days later...semi-vanisher
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Re: The Nah years....Let's give them something to talk about.
« Reply #17 on: October 07, 2018, 08:03:16 AM »
Following along Nah.

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Re: The Nah years....Let's give them something to talk about.
« Reply #18 on: October 07, 2018, 01:06:46 PM »
Wainting one more week for five years work isn't much. It will all be well, Nah.
Sometimes good things fall apart so better things can fall together. (Marilyn Monroe)

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Re: The Nah years....Let's give them something to talk about.
« Reply #19 on: October 07, 2018, 05:09:20 PM »
I love reading your posts!  You have such a great sense of humor.  Following along
Divorce Bomb August 6, 2017
Married 19 years
Together 22 years
Divorced as of January 2019
I don't think I'm standing, but who knows what the future brings.
Two Teenage boys
Me: 55
H 59
OW? I don't know - probably plural

 

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