[megogirl]

MG....Can you please explain why you automatically go into "attack" mode to everyone's posts?  Why do you feel obligated to "fight" and/or "argue" with absolutely everyone. You post asking for feedback,  when you receive it  you reply either dismissively, rudely or arrogantly.

Please elaborate.  Because I am genuinely confused as to WTH you are talking about, and so far, your username has not been mentioned in my "Ones To Avoid" list from others on PM....

[Nas]

Well now you’ve completely lost me.  I’m guessing you really have no interest in saving your marriage. Are you really defending your behavior by using the old “I’m getting secret PMs from many many people telling me that you are a bad person.” My God, that’s  Donald Trump-level deflecting. I can actually hear his voice in my head right now: “people are saying… “ You’ve got to be kidding me.



 

[BrenM]

MG....Hush....Shhhhh. Be quiet....Do not respond again until you have re-read this thread a few times. You just don't get it do you? 

Cut the teenager rubbish out! Stop playing silly schoolgirl yard games and antics.  You are selling yourself  short....very short....which is very sad. HS is a great support forum for people wanting help.  What exactly are you after MG?  Do you want help or do you just want a place where you can continually abuse people in order to get your anger out?  Don't reply...answer this to yourself.  If you want help this place is a great haven...but that is entirely up to you and your attitude....people with a wealth of experience are available to you 24/7 if you want it.....

Like a Mlcer no-one can help you but yourself.

[CallingHeart]

Karma

[Not Applicable]

Please elaborate.  Because I am genuinely confused as to WTH you are talking about, and so far, your username has not been mentioned in my "Ones To Avoid" list from others on PM....

Why don't you name the people sending you those PMs? It would make the conversation so much more lively and interesting.

Also, why are you such a sheep to just believe what anyone else tells you? Is it too much effort to interact with people in a normal manner and see whether they are someone you should avoid or not for yourself?

[Treasur]

MG....Can you please explain why you automatically go into "attack" mode to everyone's posts?  Why do you feel obligated to "fight" and/or "argue" with absolutely everyone. You post asking for feedback,  when you receive it  you reply either dismissively, rudely or arrogantly.

Please elaborate.  Because I am genuinely confused as to WTH you are talking about, and so far, your username has not been mentioned in my "Ones To Avoid" list from others on PM....

Mego, this will be my last post on a thread of yours. I debated not bothering at all, but I needed to say 'no, this is not ok'.
People have posted clear feedback to you. It isn't their job to explain it or keep repeating themselves or prove anything to you when you seem not to want to listen. That's your choice and I will leave you to it.
But it isn't ok with me to read people being belittled or abused again and again here on HS when so many of us come here hurting. You are angry but you are being nasty to people who are not responsible for your situation. Hence why I will detach from your future posts.

In particular, your responses to Nas and the PMs you say you've had? They lack grace, mego. Nas has a vanishing husband, money worries and is undergoing gruelling treatment for a serious illness that depletes her energy every day. I would humbly suggest that you have many blessings currently that she does not. And yet instead of recognising that she has used some of her limited energy to try to support you, you respond aggressively and imply publicly that other people are saying unpleasant things about her. Where is your compassion?

This is BS behaviour from an adult, truly crappy and rather similar to the behaviour we see from MLCers and ow. In fact your comment about ow in a fire is not very different from the death threats I received from an ow. It's just not good or constructive. And it is illogical to assume that HS is the only place you act this way right now, hence people trying to support you and your son in navigating your way through this awful time. Certainly none of us need it here on HS and I would ask you to stop, take a breath and reflect on whether you can interact differently if you want to use HS as part of your support system. There are ways to disagree with people while still showing them respect as a fellow human who has suffered a similar trauma. We understand pain and anger, we do, but people here are not your punchbags.

[Milly]

I'm really saddened to see someone as caring as Nas being treated this way. Her long post was generous and beautifully written. It’s clear she’s not only altruistic but a well educated lady. I got so much from it, thank you Nas. I’m sure many other LBSs did too.

Please let’s not add more pain to our LBS community. We are all suffering, but some have it even worse.

[Whyus]

I have just read this thread from start to finish.
MG, I am truely shocked. You and I are in similar positions right now. I am nearly 2 years in, Divorced and now my Kids and XILS have basically been blackmailed by XW to accept/tolerate Om being at Family Events etc.  (she would deny this of Course).
It is really hard for me atm and I have to stop myself from calling her and exploding but I can Control myself for now.
I have done it before, it doesnt help one Little bit. It only makes Things worse and that may be all that she remembers of me. The memories of me being "the most Patient and lovable H and F that a woman could ask for. Love you forever babes, my soulmate"...(posted on Instagram 8 months pre BD, 2 months pre PA) are probably so faded that they dont exist anymore.


Listen to the advice here, nobody is out to get you. Everybody cares.

[Keep believing]

When exactly is limbo ? After an awakening ? During replay ? The whole Mlc ?

[megogirl]

MG, I am truely shocked. You and I are in similar positions right now. I am nearly 2 years in, Divorced and now my Kids and XILS have basically been blackmailed by XW to accept/tolerate Om being at Family Events etc.  (she would deny this of Course).
It is really hard for me atm and I have to stop myself from calling her and exploding

Good on you.  I am close....but, have yet to do anything today.

Found a brand-new "Turkey Trot" t-shirt in S15's suitcase.  I knew he ran the Turkey Trot, but did not know the damn thing was sponsored by the school where OW IS THE FREAKING GYM TEACHER.. Yet, there it was....the 7th Annual!  Suffice it to say....it's now in the trash.

Also received an envelope in my mailbox, addressed to H, from Ticketmaster.  I opened it - two tix for a Goo Goo Dolls concert next August, in NY, near the wh*r^house!  I am contemplating throwing those out, too.  This residence is no longer his, so why he continues to have his mail sent here, I have no idea.....