WGH,
Finally, it seems like the infatuation wore off. Thank G. The realization that you really screwed up creeps into your mind, into your dreams (and nightmares), and you might realize how you want to be remembered by family, relatives and friends. Instead of regrets of the choices in the first part of life, they might figure out their own legacy and impact to the ones that claim they love.
And then you decide to become a better person and figure out how to deal with own problems and possible problems in your own marriage, your feelings. AND most importantly figure out ways to make amends with your OWN children moving forward.
If she doesn't figure it out, then she might be onto a third marriage. I know a guy who has been married SIX times - obviously he still hasn't figured it out. Serial cheater but still hasn't figure it out that he should be looking in the mirror.
Hopefully she and her first husband will get back together. That is, if her husband hasn't already moved on emotionally and doesn't have another woman in his own life or has remarried.
Boy, I think I have gotten some insight into my own sitch.
Hallejulah!