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#150: February 17, 2019, 12:15:16 AM
Ausgator, it's early days for your H. He's deep in replay, that deep dark part of the tunnel where he can't see either end. Just the fact that not even your kids know where he lives should tell you. Many of us didn't know where our H's lived at some point. Many of them try to hide it. When my H sees my S14, he doesn't ask about me or talk about his new life. Of course this makes spending time with him very difficult for my S. They can only talk about stuff around them on the day. All normal for a MLCer in the middle of replay.
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D26, D23, S16
OW Physical Affair same one. He and she said she turned 34 the month of BD. She turned 52 this year.
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Re: Anyone else have a vanisher? 20
#151: February 17, 2019, 02:38:46 AM
Same here, aus, when h was in contact with kids as now no contact at all, won’t talk about me or his life. Only talked about a school or our dog. They only time he talked about me was to say I made fan cake as took daughter to a coffee shop and they had a slice of cake.

Congratulations on your new job. All we can do is move forward and a new job is moving forward. Xx
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Me 55
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Divorced 3/dec/2019
Together 30yrs
BD 20/10/2014
Left first 12/12/2014
10 come backs and leaves again for same ow
Last left 7.03.17.
Ow 16 yrs younger, no children never been married. co worker. EA turned to PA and lives with ow
Divorce bomb drop by him 31/8/17 by solicitor letter after being caught by ow at lunch with me 3 wk earlier. Finances Not yet finalised.
Crazy divorce started by him.
Clinging boomerang for 3 yrs now Vanisher but  twice a yr pops his head up. ow has balls in a vice!
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Re: Anyone else have a vanisher? 20
#152: February 17, 2019, 09:16:21 AM
Would someone like to start a new Discussion thread?
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"From my experience if my H had let me go a long time ago, and stop pressuring me, begging, and pleading and just let go I possibly would have experienced my awakening sooner than I did."
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Re: Anyone else have a vanisher? 20
#153: February 17, 2019, 09:51:36 AM
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Me 55
H56
Divorced 3/dec/2019
Together 30yrs
BD 20/10/2014
Left first 12/12/2014
10 come backs and leaves again for same ow
Last left 7.03.17.
Ow 16 yrs younger, no children never been married. co worker. EA turned to PA and lives with ow
Divorce bomb drop by him 31/8/17 by solicitor letter after being caught by ow at lunch with me 3 wk earlier. Finances Not yet finalised.
Crazy divorce started by him.
Clinging boomerang for 3 yrs now Vanisher but  twice a yr pops his head up. ow has balls in a vice!
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