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Offline Helpingme!Topic starter

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My Story Helping Me in this MLC 5
« on: December 13, 2018, 06:14:01 AM »
New thread time. Boy these threads seem to fly by.
Been 2 years and few months since the BD. W is still home. Never left.
The Little fruit Bat is still moving along.  Slowly!!!!!!
Can someone please link old thread. 

Thanks PJ
W was chatty last night.  That is good. I'd rather listen to a chatty MLCer (even though it's all about her) than look at a quiet sulled up MLCer.
Have a good one my friends.


Previous thread: https://mlcforum.theherosspouse.com/index.php?topic=10415.0
« Last Edit: December 13, 2018, 06:41:19 AM by Thunder »

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Re: Helping Me in this MLC 5
« Reply #1 on: December 13, 2018, 06:22:56 AM »
Jumping on board, Helping!
Yep, chatty is better than sullen, especially from MLCer.
At least there is some noise going on even if she is talking about herself only.  Who knows, you might learn something about her. 

Feb 2015: BD 1. H has a Nuclear meltdown.  The next morning arctic cold descends.
Oct 2015: BD 2,  ILYBIANILWY. “We should not have gotten married.”
Apr 2016: Affair discovered
Never left home
Dec 2017: Seriously reconnecting

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Re: Helping Me in this MLC 5
« Reply #2 on: December 13, 2018, 06:42:36 AM »
Welcome to your new thread, Helping.

Things are coming along.   :)
A quote from a recovered MLCer: 
"From my experience if my H had let me go a long time ago, and stop pressuring me, begging, and pleading and just let go I possibly would have experienced my awakening sooner than I did."

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Re: Helping Me in this MLC 5
« Reply #3 on: December 13, 2018, 10:00:06 AM »
Following along!  :)
M 46
H 40
No Kids
Married 5yrs, Together 11yrs
BD Oct 31/17
ILYBINILWY Dec 21/17
2nd BD- Dec 27/17
OW-Confirmed Jan 3/17

 Isaiah 43:1 " But the Lord says.. Fear not, for I have redeemed you; I have summoned you by name; you are mine. "

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Re: Helping Me in this MLC 5
« Reply #4 on: December 13, 2018, 10:10:12 AM »
Following along Helping.  Yep, I’ve got a chatty MLCer too.  The other day I was reminded of my D when she was about 3 and used to follow me everywhere talking non stop.  I would go in the bathroom and shut the door and cover my ears sometimes to get some peace.  I did exactly that the other day!  My H is mostly talking about himself, but I see some snippets of taking interest in me.

Carry on Helping.  You are doing great. Changing our habits of wearing our hearts on our sleeves is a tough one.  My former affection via emails and texts to my H has stopped completely.  He is just now starting to notice this and I’m getting more from him.  I only respond to what he send me.

Your fruit bat is cooking nicely.  Wishing you peace for your holiday get togethers!

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Me 53
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BD #1 Spring 2016
BD #2 Winter 2017
married 30 years.  Together 32
H never moved out except 3 weeks after BD #1
OW 30 year single mom employee-He says EA only I don’t believe him.
He is working on things and far from being cooked.

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Re: Helping Me in this MLC 5
« Reply #5 on: December 13, 2018, 10:42:55 AM »
Thank You Acorn , Thunder , FN, and Roo.
Her chatty times are almost all about her. Now on some our long road trips, she will let a few things slip.
Almost all of chatty days come after a quiet spell. So I hear all about the last few days or the last week. Depending on how long it's been.
They when I'm good. When she can see that I'm ok with quiet time. That's my opinion.
Roo , if I want the me me me convo to stop. All I have to do is start talking about my day. Convo over!!! Lol. She has Vetter things to do. 

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Re: Helping Me in this MLC 5
« Reply #6 on: December 13, 2018, 10:55:26 AM »
Is her talkfest a recent development or she’s always been this way since her MLC started?
Feb 2015: BD 1. H has a Nuclear meltdown.  The next morning arctic cold descends.
Oct 2015: BD 2,  ILYBIANILWY. “We should not have gotten married.”
Apr 2016: Affair discovered
Never left home
Dec 2017: Seriously reconnecting

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Re: Helping Me in this MLC 5
« Reply #7 on: December 13, 2018, 10:56:39 AM »
Following along for the Further Adventures of HelpingMe.

My wife can be supper chatty and me-me-me too. Once on the phone she asked me how my day was four times, obviously not remembering what I said 2 minutes before. It makes me want to make up random ridiculous stories to see if she actually pays attention to what I say at all.

You're doing great!
"I'm slowly learning to expect nothing and appreciate everything."

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S: 24, D: 21 both doing great.

BD #1: June, 2016 - discovered EA with co-worker
BD #2: November 2018 - discovered online relationship with dude she met playing video games; she has never met him in person.
5-day separation (she left), November, 2018
W is trying (a little), but has no remorse. Nowhere near fully-cooked.

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Re: Helping Me in this MLC 5
« Reply #8 on: December 13, 2018, 11:39:29 AM »
PJ
My W repeats herself alot. Yep, she can tell me something. Later in convo says it again. It's their scatter brain not ours my friend.
Acorn
Lord No! Lol. I went year of mean talking. I was ready for that too stop. I guess when I finally learned to not feed the monster. I got months of silent treatment. I'd say chatty had come in last 6 months.  Steadily getting more frequent. But still all her mainly. I just nod and listen.  Some is very negative. Not my wife at all. But some is good. I can get in on those convos.

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Re: Helping Me in this MLC 5
« Reply #9 on: December 13, 2018, 11:48:47 AM »
Ok. Well, I think the fact that she is talking to you, never mind what about, is a good thing.  She opened the channel of communication voluntarily.  I’m not surprised that she talks about herself.  My H did the same.  He eventually started taking notice of the fact that I had life too. 

If it does get too much you can always go to the bathroom and sit awhile.  ;D
Feb 2015: BD 1. H has a Nuclear meltdown.  The next morning arctic cold descends.
Oct 2015: BD 2,  ILYBIANILWY. “We should not have gotten married.”
Apr 2016: Affair discovered
Never left home
Dec 2017: Seriously reconnecting

 

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