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My Story Re: Helping Me in this MLC 5
« Reply #10 on: December 13, 2018, 12:15:24 PM »
I am tagging along Helping.

I think I mentioned that my sister went through an MLC. I think she is technically still in it, though my illness jarred her and stopped her form making even worse choices at the time. She never left her H either. But neither of them really are working on anything. There is a lot of anger and resentment happening. I am working on her to see the light. It is a slow process as you know.  Your story helps me too in seeing things form her POV.

You are an amazing H Helping. Your little fruitbat is lucky to have you.
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Re: Helping Me in this MLC 5
« Reply #11 on: December 14, 2018, 03:40:16 AM »
Help

Just thinking about your last thread as it started with talk of you changing color and during it you had some of the hardest times when you really struggled. Shows how up and down this all is and it’s no wonder it’s so wearing with it going on so long. You probably also get an award for ‘post of the year’ regarding the birthday suit event!

Glad you are managing to stay the same mostly whether she is up or down. Hopefully she lets you get enough peace to keep finding you.

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BD1 - Sept 2016
BD2 - May 2017
ILYBINILWY - June 2017
PA with MOW Mar 2016-Jan 2017
EA with same MOW Jan 2017 until ?
Left home Oct 2017 to stay with his parents

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Re: Helping Me in this MLC 5
« Reply #12 on: December 14, 2018, 04:27:34 AM »
Following along helping. Just Keep on doing what your doing.
Good luck and have fun with the FIL at Christmas, you should set some go pros up in the house. Could be entertaining in the future  ::)
Married - 19,5 Years pre BD
Together - 21,5 Years
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W: 45 (Acts 25)
BD 1: 10.01.2017
BD 2: 24.02.2017 OM 28 (now 30) Trainings partner. W is trying to get People to accept them.
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1 Dogs and a cat.
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Re: Helping Me in this MLC 5
« Reply #13 on: December 14, 2018, 06:34:23 AM »
Acorn
The bathroom is FBs hiding spot. She takes a 2hr bath. That would cause a dispute. Lol.
Thank you KiT
I'm gonna try keep posting more. Sometimes the silly crap she does, I don't post. I say, nobody would believe this!! Or no other MLCer is like mine!!
Rose, that leads up to crazy BD suit post. I guess all info is good info to help other LBS.
Whyus
Ill have my phone . Trust me, I'll be ready to record.
On note if FIL. BIL is at his place in Texas.. he has said FIL is still kicked out of OWs house. One he paid for btw. BIL said he is a whipped little puppy. He still asking all kind of questions about Ws momma. Ask was she ok financially???
I can see it coming. FIL, sending a check and saying to use it to help out on Christmas. Oh boy.

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Re: Helping Me in this MLC 5
« Reply #14 on: December 14, 2018, 06:43:06 AM »
I think we are going to have to come up with some new Acronyms soon.... At the moment, FB is

1) Fruit Bat,
2) FakeBook, and
3) KiT's Fat Bailiff

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Re: Helping Me in this MLC 5
« Reply #15 on: December 14, 2018, 07:00:35 AM »
UM
Atm all three of those are the same.
CRAZY and FAKE
So I guess it's ok for now if people get confused. Same meaning really.

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Re: Helping Me in this MLC 5
« Reply #16 on: December 14, 2018, 07:42:42 AM »
Post away, Helping
Helps you keep your WTF thermometer working
Helps others sigh with relief that it isn't just happening to them
If nothing else, gives us all the chance for at least a wry smile, if not a knowing chuckle  :)
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Re: Helping Me in this MLC 5
« Reply #17 on: December 14, 2018, 09:06:35 AM »
Following along Helping!  I got the silent treatment for a while and in the rare occasions when he opened his mouth, what he had to say was not pretty!! So definitely chatty is better, even if it is me me me me  ;D
H - 41 (40 @BD1)
M - 41 (40 @BD1)
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No kids
BD1 - 26th Aug 2017 (Not happy, life has no purpose, "we have problems")
BD2 - 22nd March 2018 (Marriage is over, we want different things, confessed EA with someone 12,000 kms away although "she means nothing")
H moved in with parents 11th May 2018 (I asked him to leave as couldn't handle the EA rubbed all over my face)
H moved abroad 29th Dec 2018, not sure if OW will join him or if they are still in contact.

Trying very hard to let go...

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Re: Helping Me in this MLC 5
« Reply #18 on: December 14, 2018, 10:06:51 AM »
Treasur
I will try and keep up to date on post. If any LBS gets a laugh or even a smile out of it, it's worth posting. 
One Day
I agree chatty is better. I've became the best listener. May help me out if things ever get back to normal. It helps sometimes when she is too negative , when she walks off, I'll giver her the ugly finger to her back. Just my way of saying whatever!! Without saying it. Makes me feel better. I've got so used to it, I would do it without looking at her. Almost got caught couple times, she had came back in the room. I haven't done that bear as much. It sure helped early on though.

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Re: Helping Me in this MLC 5
« Reply #19 on: December 14, 2018, 11:37:34 AM »
Tee hee
Sure UM has a gif for that, helping  :)
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