[exiled]

The fateful day was 4/9/09 so it makes a bit over 2 years.
She wants to file this summer.  We will see.

[Shantilly Lace]

almost 15 months.
16 months since i knew i had a REAL problem.

looking back though a year prior that i knew there were changes.  nothing major thought he was suffering burnout, financial stress and an unexpected rpegnancy adding to it all...

nothing i could have done to change it because i can remember saying to him periodically we really need a break, quite a few weeks not just a few days. and i was trying to encourage him to ease up.

I also remember a few weeks before bd saying to a friend if dearheart were to die I doubt I would want anyone else.  well he didn't die he cheated and walked out which my initial reaction was to kick him to the kerb and then i saw some behaviours and I realised he was depressed and that threw me into trying to find out how to help even though I knew different from experience.

Sometimes it is very lonely and i long for someone to love me BUT in actuality it is dearheart I long for.

[Rebel Yell]

I'm guessing 15 months or so.

[Butterfly]

13 months . Issues started at 15 months. Worrying about how carrying me on his insurance after we retired would be expensive . Very irritable . Short tempered. Out of character for him.
He's never thought ahead 2 weeks about insurance, now 15 years before retirement?

Butterfly

[whyme2]

8/10- I am not happy, I want some space and be alone, maybe I am not cut out to be married.
11/10- same story, but left for 2 nights.....talking about moving out
2/11- moved out...then contacted me to tell me same story.....blah, blah, blah

Are we all having fun yet?.... Not so much....

[Covenant for Life]

1st BD June 2007 - almost 4 years ago - did not move out

2nd BD Feb 2008 - moved out in March 2008, Filed February 2009

My breast cancer diagnosis - June 2010

[Dontgiveup]

16 months

[missybuddha]

just over two months.MLC decline since sept 2005 (hindsight a great thing ,not). he hates me. we're on a"trial separation" but know  in my gut that he isn't coming back at the end of it. sigh.

[LearningIamOk]

First BD was 4 1/2 yrs ago, telling me he was very, very unhappy. That we had nothing in common and he couldn't see himself being retired with me.  My response was "who is she?!"  Doesn't seem to have been an alienator at that point.  Tried MC by myself and things improved somewhat, but that's around the time he started tailgating with a lot of rowdy younger guys at the football games.  They were all at least 15 yrs younger than H, who was 50 at the time.

BD 2 & 3, 12/10 ended up a 2 wk separation at my suggestion, came back for 6 weeks only to leave again because he just wasn't happy. Had been having an EA with a gym instructor for more than a yr at that point.  So in hindsight I may be almost 5 yrs into this S**t.

[Faith]

BD 23 months ago.  Has never left, but still insists he is divorcing me......one of these days.