[watching and waiting]

April 08  - A started (I knew nothing but some wierd behaviours)
Dec 08  - BD#1  (I busted him in A, lied to me saying A started in July, left but came back to try again.  Said he had ended it - I don't think so)
June 09 - BD#2 (ILYBINILWY speech, leaves same day. Got a flat and moved OW in)

22 months since he moved out to live with OW.

[LettingGo]

Got the speech in February of '10 but have vague memories of feeling like I was losing our marriage the prior October... so the discontent must have been going on for some time.... I was walking on eggshells at that time just trying to stay out of his way which was interpreted as me not caring about him. I think I can't remember because I was in a transition of my own.

Found out about OW around April of '10 but I believe it had been percolating for some time and definitely went physical right after BD and he just never came home again. He insists I "pried it out of him", that he would never have told me...

Secretly moved him and OW into an apartment in another state September of '10 after we got back from Hawaii..... he said he "had to try and make it work with her or he might regret it for the rest of his life" 

He left OW several times to try and come home, but finally moved ALL of his stuff back in  a couple of months ago. He is still in contact with her and has been to spend the weekend with her a couple of times since then, but I believe he is LIVING here permanently. All of his stuff is strewn around the house... got a new box of checks with our address, getting Fios installed on Friday... 3 pairs of shoes under the bed.... acts like he owns the place! 

Not pressuring at this point. Getting my own life.... he started wearing his wedding ring last week when he took me to the airport. Son says he was asking him to check my FB page to see my pictures of vacation... Still acts like he has one foot out the door and I expect him to be wierd for a long time. 

It ain't over, but steady progress has been made. Wish the Karma bus would hit OW in a big way before it gets to my husband. I will feel better when it does.

[hampc0cv]

18 months since he said he didn't think he wanted to be married anymore.  then things got a lot better and then in May of 2010 (11 months ago) he told me he was taking some clothes and leaving and he didn't want me to be calling him all the time.  One month later I found out he was living with ow ( i caught him with her at the friends house where he was staying before he moved in with her but he told her he didn't want a divorce)  In August of 2010 he files for divorce and it was final in January.

[BonBon]

09/08 - In hindsight, I believe this is when MLC began in earnest.
04/09 - I knew something was wrong and I believe this is when EA started
07/19/09 (21 months) - BD - EA revealed, I'm not happy...blah, blah, blah

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7/09 - EA ended.  Spewing began and lasted heavily until August, 2010.
8/10 - I stopped bawling and started to stick up for myself without tears and meant it!
9/10 - present - still in replay with head peeping out of tunnel. 

Got a long way to go.

[Buggy31]

I know we can never put too much into timelines but just an observations that there does seem to be somewhat of a pattern in the timelines on her with most Bomb Drops and or personality changes occuring btw 08ish an 09ish.  Now in the "normal world" this would look like a LARGE time span but in MLC I think it's significant that so many of us saw it begin around this time.  Nothing really to be gleaned from it just a hmmmmmmmmmmm factor.  RCR has some good info on her that could be a very good source of qualitative research on MLC.  Not sure how other boards are but the way this one is organized makes so much sense and really captures the "stories" and "journies" of MLC. 

[Glimmer]

Bomb drop Oct 09
Moved out Nov 09

In hindsight noticed a few 'out of character' episodes shortly after his graduation in May 09.

A few insults at me namely, that he said I had let myself go and I should try to be more feminine, and that he had just thought of me as a mate for a couple of years.!!
He also said he resented me for sponging off him for all these years.

He is still deep in replay and as selfish as ever. Me me me. 

[Mamma Bear]

 Replay........I Hate it. Now he's wondering how come his 94 year old mother in Florida said "He abandoned his family." Where is this stuff coming from..?   
ME 50
H 51
M 10
D 9 & 11
BD 2-14-11 Gone
OW 2-14-11

[heartbroken]

2 months ago.  He was kind of depressed for the last 3 years.  Became nasty and short tempered in the last year.  I even said to him that I felt like I had to walk on egg shells around him.  I also now looking back that he was withdrawing from me for the last 3 years.  We went through some financial issues and that seems to have started this MLC.  I even asked him last fall what was wrong because he was depressed and he said he felt dead inside, numb and that he blamed himself for our financial problems.  It was not his fault and I told him that several times but I couldn't change how he feels inside. 

[zinger]

11/10 BD

12/10 Supposedly started EA/PA (might have started earlier--everyone else thinks so)

3/11 --Moves out and says it over.

In hindsight, personality began to change at beginning of '10--withdrawn, flashes of anger, fatigue--all of which I attributed to new, stressful job. ..

As I just posted on my thread--WHERE ARE ALL OF THE SUCCESS STORIES?  Looking at all of these numbers just feels so depressing and hopeless...sorry to be a downer

[Sideways]

25 months since BD and 31 months since found about him meeting OW for "coffee"  in early morning hours, they were " "just friends." "  And and 36 months (3 years) since I knew something was wrong as he was really distant.