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« Reply #10 on: December 22, 2018, 09:46:44 PM »
Feliz aniversário Anjae!!!

Sounds like a lovely birthday! I remember my fiftieth too - just into this mess, I had my parents over and we had a delicious Japanese dinner😊

Beijos
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H 57
S 27
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D 24
BD 13 Dec 2010
Divorced 27 Feb 2015 (30 years marriage)

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Re: Growth For A New Half Century
« Reply #11 on: December 22, 2018, 10:36:29 PM »
Happy Birthday' Anjae  :)
T: 18  M: 12 (at BD)
No kids.
BD Oct 15. OW since Apr 16?
H filed Jan 17. Divorced April 18. XH married ow 6 weeks later.

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Re: Growth For A New Half Century
« Reply #12 on: December 23, 2018, 12:17:14 AM »
Happy birthday, Anjae; I do hope the next 50 years are wonderful for you!

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Re: Growth For A New Half Century
« Reply #13 on: December 23, 2018, 08:07:41 AM »
Happy belated birthday, Anjae!   :)

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« Reply #14 on: December 23, 2018, 02:28:52 PM »
Thank you, Anon, Shining Star, PJ, Kintsugi, Jack, Ready2, Savy, Xyzcf, Mitz, Treasur, Trust and Thunder.

I loved that feminine suede jacket with fringes a la Crosby Stills Nash and Young for a 50th birthday present, Xyzcf.

I also hope to meet you in person one day. We never know. It would be wonderful to meet you, and the others as well.


Today was also a good day. Went to the park, walking, and spend time in a garden with a lake. The oldest of my brothers went with me and we had a nice time.

Sometimes good things fall apart so better things can fall together. (Marilyn Monroe)

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Re: Growth For A New Half Century
« Reply #15 on: December 23, 2018, 02:40:35 PM »
Glad you had a good day...

50 - how lovely, that seems like a long time ago now for me! 😉

It could be the start of a whole new you...

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Re: Growth For A New Half Century
« Reply #16 on: December 23, 2018, 03:43:04 PM »
Happiest of birthdays to you, Anjae!
Married 8 years at BD, together 16.
BD March 2015
H moved out July 2015
I found out about OW March 2016 (She went to high school with H, long distance EA since September 2014, became PA November 2015)
H moved 1100 miles to live with OW June 2016
I was diagnosed with advanced breast cancer June 2017
H became a vanisher

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« Reply #17 on: January 01, 2019, 04:47:37 PM »
Thank you, Serenity and Nas.

Happy New Year.
Sometimes good things fall apart so better things can fall together. (Marilyn Monroe)

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Re: Growth For A New Half Century
« Reply #18 on: January 02, 2019, 02:19:43 PM »
Happy New Year dear Anjae

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Re: Growth For A New Half Century
« Reply #19 on: January 02, 2019, 03:54:20 PM »
My answer to Xyzcf's post on Serenity's thread.


We're very different. The only "issue" for me is financial resources. Don't get me wrong, I loved being married, but I do fine on my own. Would love to marry again, or have a new partner. And would had loved to have had kids, but it didn't happen.

I have married, single and divorced friends. Doesn't make much of a difference. Everyone is too busy with their lives or several of the single/divorced ones like to go to bars/clubs. Been there, done that after BD. Rather stay in and read, paint, watch a movie/series.

Do I miss sharing my like with Mr J? Not anymore, aside for the odd brief moment. I barely remember him. What, at times, but less and less, I miss is the life I lead in the capital. Doubt I could go back to the noise and mess and rush.

No, you're not wrong for saying you feel that way. I just found it confusing, because, for me, life is joyful, filled with small things.

Oh, I had years or missing Mr J and our life. I cannot bring it back, I cannot bring him out of crisis. Even if he comes out of crisis, doubt we will be a couple again.

Like I said on Watcher's thread, for some reason I no longer like him. I mean like, not love. No idea why it happened. Yet, I know he was a wonderful man.
Sometimes good things fall apart so better things can fall together. (Marilyn Monroe)

 

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