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#100: June 30, 2020, 07:04:36 AM
Philly--you really do sound great. So very deviant that he would make such a fuss over their grades, and yet ghost them on their birthdays. In what world is it ever ok to simply abandon all responsibility for our children? We know we would never do it. But then MLC is the gift that just keeps giving.

I think for you no contact has been life changing. They really can suck the life out of us. Mine is actually a nice one, but I prefer no contact b/c it is exhausting. They are still entitled and still have no clue the amount of damage they have done. And even if they did know, they wouldn't care. You said it right--he still hasn't grown up. How sad b/c your littles are growing every day. And he is missing all of it.

Congrats on their grades and promotion. You are doing a magnificent job of raising them!
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OW--yes. Worked for H. EA turned into PA while I was in chemo. On again/off again like every high school romance

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#101: June 30, 2020, 07:50:27 AM
The Head sent me a text saying that H wanted to discuss the reports with her this year.....she contacted me saying that sensing that he was trying to generate trouble again she decided to stop him in his tracks and sent him a document summary of their education at the school and reports. When I saw her in person last Friday she said - I was just not prepared to go there.

We all need reminders sometimes that MLCers can become really disordered kinds of folks. Nothing we did made them so and, with time, objective outsiders see it too. And do their own version of NC lol.
It isn't normal of course to want to 'discuss' their education with the school....but not see them for years and ignore your kid's birthdays. It just isn't, divorce or not. With time, I think most LBS see how disordered they are and accept that you can't possibly comprehend any of it from the POV of an emotionally healthy adult.
 The blessing of course is that it keeps the crazy stuff away from your lovely sane healthy side of the street doesn't it? Which is your collective gain and his great loss imho.
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T: 18  M: 12 (at BD) No kids.
H diagnosed with severe depression Oct 15. BD May 16. OW since April 16, maybe earlier. Silent vanisher mostly.
Divorced April 18. XH married ow 6 weeks later.
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What has happened to my life? - Part 6!
#102: June 30, 2020, 07:41:33 PM
Good to hear from you PG. 

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Re: What has happened to my life? - Part 6!
#103: July 01, 2020, 02:25:28 AM
Hi Philly, I see your H is the same as ever. Shame he couldn't say happy birthday to his kids. My H has ignored similar important days. You though sound good. You and your kids did great to get through elementary school. I know how hard it is to handle the kids alone as they navigate school with the additional weight of their family having exploded in the mean time. I think your H acts up once things have gone well, just to look like the interested parent. Since the kids have passed their year, he can go check things out because he will not be told off and nothing will be required of him.

Still, your kids are good and now they can have a lovely summer. x
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